I get numbers, but I rarely call them

[Lucas718]

I'm not sure why I do this. Over the past 3 months or so I'd say I've gotten 10 - 12 numbers and I've only called 3 of them. I have a match.com account and have talked to a bunch of women there, but it seems that I lose interest when they give me their number. It's weird. I never used to do this. If I meet someone in the field then I'll be more likely to call her, but it seems with the online chicks I drop them as soon as I get the number. I've done this so many times that it's become a habit. It's pretty rare that I'll actually follow through with one and actually set up a date.

I think I need a good kick in the ass or something.

 

[Hitman10000]

That's cause you're listening to your gut. Only half of those numbers you got will be from women your gut will say "She might be fun" while the other half is like "Dude..."

And then out of that half of the "She might be fun" pile would be "She's got wife potential" , and etc. Try to see dating as a job interview process. YOU - Yes you are the EMPLOYER. You're willing to spend the time AND money to see how this person interacts and if she has the skills. I recommend doing a search on the job interview process and look at it from an HR/Employer viewpoint on what they expect from the interviewee and from the interviewee's POV on what others say the interviewee should be doing. Usually when I'm down on my dating game, I have a couple of b*tches in the backburner as possible potentials (like I'd never want to f*cking marry her but she could provide ego booster for me while I'm unmarried, single, etc)

Would you as an employer want to hire a person that looks like a mess or doesn't get along with you? You'd probably want them as "temporary" or "interns" eh? But someone that fits at least 85% of your criteria, you may want her to be in a contracted position with full benefits.

 

[Lucas718]

Maybe I am just screening chicks better than I used to. Now that I think about it, one had 3 kids, one had strong political views I didn't agree with, one seemed desperate for a relationship. Those 3 were pretty obvious that it wouldn't work, but there are still a few that I have no idea why I never called them.

 

[amoka]

I've got similar problem. Chicks numbers pilled up in my phone book and often delete some one every three weeks or so; yet, I barely call them. Calling them is the ideal solution to the problem...

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Maybe I am just screening chicks better than I used to. Now that I think about it, one had 3 kids, one had strong political views I didn't agree with, one seemed desperate for a relationship. Those 3 were pretty obvious that it wouldn't work, but there are still a few that I have no idea why I never called them.

Qualifying is a good thing. As for the others, can you think of a reason why you should have called them?

 

[joekerr31]

sounds to me like you just want to prove to yourself that you CAN get numbers.

nothing wrong with that. there's a big difference between confronting your fear of rejection or inability to garner interest from the opposite sex, and looking to close on quality women.

sounds like you are progressing quite well through the overcoming your fear part.

once you get through that you'll be ready to start being selective and going after chics that you are genuinely interested in.