I get emotionally attached to new plates....WHY!?

[jackhamma]

I meet a lot of women. My friend is a big club promoter. I always have opportunities to bring new women home BUT......when I do, I bang them, I get emotionally attached...almost missing them...not all but a few that I have liked and I KNOW they are bad girls. Girls I could never date, yet I allow myself to slightly get emotionally attached.

I mean I bang them, bang them good. Shouldn't I be satisfied? WTF is wrong with me?? How do I stop getting attached to all these new bangs?

Going crazy recently about banging this new HB8 and it was great sexx. Yet thats all she wants is sexx and I want more....sigh

Ideas?

 

[mikey2012]

Coz you are a natural beta. Like your height , nothing you can do except train yourself to be less emotionally dependent

 

[Bingo-Player]

yea your still living in disney fairytale land searching for your happy ending thats why

you aint gonna find snow white in 2015 mate

about 2 years ago every chick i would bang i would consider to be my potential soul mate

men are pretty deep when it comes to stuff like that

you need to learn how to control your emotions , because i can assure you women are way ahead of you in that department

 

[Julian]

unless its maternal...female attachment is very conditional. imagine it like a fast rushing river. women just get swept up in the ****. you are the log thats keeping her from floating on to the next. eventually she will.


for guys our attachment when we truly do attach ourselves to a female is much deeper. its like a deep gargantuan ocean and also harder to get over that love because its so wide and expansive. thats just my opinion anyway.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

In short: Oxytocin. It's the chemical in us that gets released during sex that makes us bond with the woman we just did. As much as guys try to fight the whole attachment thing, our bodies are designed to feel a closer connection with someone we just had sex with. So, even if they're the WRONG person and you know that going in, your body is still going to have the reactions its supposed to have by way of its nature, one of which being that you will, more often than not, want to keep banging them and/or start feeling like you care about them on a deeper level.

This is why I always laugh at guys on here when they say "So, I'm not looking to wife this chick up, just wanna pump n' dump her" - because I know it's not true. In fact, usually in their next sentence they're either saying: "I've been trying to get a lay out of her for weeks but she won't comply" or "We had sex and I tried to hit her up again but she's not returning my messages, what did I do wrong?" Both those sentences display a building attachment, whether these guys want to admit it or now. The reality is, it's very hard to train yourself to NOT care about a girl for anything besides sex because, again, we are DESIGNED BY NATURE to care. I think some guys try to act like they don't care so that they won't get hurt (which, if you read enough on these boards, you know it's NOT working), but the body is going to react naturally the way it's designed to do so.

Anyway... that's the scientific explanation. Hope this helps!

 

[hockeyfreak79]

I meet a lot of women. My friend is a big club promoter. I always have opportunities to bring new women home BUT......when I do, I bang them, I get emotionally attached...almost missing them...not all but a few that I have liked and I KNOW they are bad girls. Girls I could never date, yet I allow myself to slightly get emotionally attached.

I mean I bang them, bang them good. Shouldn't I be satisfied? WTF is wrong with me?? How do I stop getting attached to all these new bangs?

Going crazy recently about banging this new HB8 and it was great sexx. Yet thats all she wants is sexx and I want more....sigh

Ideas?

If she just wants an fbuddy then why the hell no? You are 27 man, this will help you learn how to contol your beta emotions. Stop giving a f*ck & just bang her, no dates you save $ too.

 

[Trump]

I mean I bang them, bang them good. Shouldn't I be satisfied? WTF is wrong with me?? How do I stop getting attached to all these new bangs?

Going crazy recently about banging this new HB8 and it was great sexx. Yet thats all she wants is sexx and I want more....sigh

Ideas?

Because you getting older and want something more stable, a relationship where you can emotionally connect with a girl rather than just doing something biological and mechanical that feels good but offers no substance and can get boring after a while.

You are thinking they can do it with any guy and would rather they like you for you.

Used to be women get emotionally attached and men would pump and dump. Now men want more emotionally and women want freedom. Gotta love the new world. :crackup:

 

[Jaylan]

Nothing wrong with wanting a girlfriend bro. Seems like you might be wanting a steady gal. Cant always be a mindless hormonal sex robot. There's more to dating than that. Maybe you should put forth effort to find a steady girlfriend...or at least a steady main girl if youre not ready for the actual relationship life yet.

Maybe casual sex isn't your thing OP. Some guys simply feel more when it comes to sex. Sounds like youre one of those dudes. So you gotta figure out what you want and what youre capable of.

 

[Anargyros]

In short: Oxytocin. It's the chemical in us that gets released during sex that makes us bond with the woman we just did. As much as guys try to fight the whole attachment thing, our bodies are designed to feel a closer connection with someone we just had sex with. So, even if they're the WRONG person and you know that going in, your body is still going to have the reactions its supposed to have by way of its nature, one of which being that you will, more often than not, want to keep banging them and/or start feeling like you care about them on a deeper level.

This is why I always laugh at guys on here when they say "So, I'm not looking to wife this chick up, just wanna pump n' dump her" - because I know it's not true. In fact, usually in their next sentence they're either saying: "I've been trying to get a lay out of her for weeks but she won't comply" or "We had sex and I tried to hit her up again but she's not returning my messages, what did I do wrong?" Both those sentences display a building attachment, whether these guys want to admit it or now. The reality is, it's very hard to train yourself to NOT care about a girl for anything besides sex because, again, we are DESIGNED BY NATURE to care. I think some guys try to act like they don't care so that they won't get hurt (which, if you read enough on these boards, you know it's NOT working), but the body is going to react naturally the way it's designed to do so.

Anyway... that's the scientific explanation. Hope this helps!

Yes, but there comes the issue that the more you care the more you push her away. If you care too much then it seems just impossible to get the girl...
A bit of a paradox

 

[ositosucio]

amazing how inverted things have become. Personally I have to say the grass is not always greener...the same chicks sex-zoning guys like OP are trying to get into ltrs with me and meet the parents on the second date lol.

exactly.


I have had Tinder girls asked me to meet their parents and remove Tinder after 2 dates. TWO DATES!

 

[RangerMIke]

You can not help but get emotionally invested in a women that you are building report with. When you get her emotionally engaged you can not help but feel the same thing while this is happening. When you build an emotional connection... you feel the same way... that is how human being are.

The only way to fight this is to have more than one woman, and you do not build too deep a connection with any one of them. When you start feeling like you are losing yourself and you are not ready to settle down in a committed relationship, then you must go out a bang another one... failure to do this and you are in an emotional web that gets harder and harder to get out.