I gave her a second chance... good idea or not?

[KillingTime]

Ive been with a certain woman for some time now. We have a really deep bond and there seems to be a lot of long term potential, she is very classy and shows tons and tons of interest on a daily basis, she will go out of her way to do anything to please me.
There is one problem though, she comes from a very snobby background and she is used to getting her way, which I think is a habit i've really started to break, she also throws fits over every little thing... that really gets on my nerves. I have called her on it before and she says she will change but she doesn't, I gave her one more chance today after she begged and begged and told me she would do anything to make me happy.

You guys think i was right to give her another chance? Aside from this she is really a great person, and hell everyone is going to have a flaw... but damn this flaw really gets on my nerves. Every little thing it's some big fit, I don't mind her being upset about things but dammit explain it to me like a person don't whine & complain and try to make ME feel bad .... EVERYTIME it ends with her crying and apologizing, she pretty much wears herself out and admits she's wrong in the end but it's getting soooo old.

Is this a habit that can be broken? I'm sure as hell not having any luck, I'm really trying to salvage this b/c she really does seem to care and I have NEVER seen anyone show so much interest in me, if it weren't for that she'd be gone by now. But damn these fits, it's almost like an automatic reflex

 

[piri]

All you have to do is NOT get nervous nor angry.

You must laught at whatever she does/says, and treat her like a little girl.
That shows respect because she sees nothing she says affects you. You are so much above it. Never get on the nerves with a chick. Always be calm/playfull.

Anyway, you must show her who's the boss here.
Even thought they say they don't like it, they love it. Don't listen to what they say, but watch what they do.
Just be THE man.
Respect comes from fear. If you want her respect she must always fear you. Fear of you walking away anytime (not the hitting fear type. NEVER hit a girl) withou even looking back. You must be like she does not control you at all.
Example: Set up a date (or wait for her to set one or something) and then call in the last hour saying you can't go. Of course don't do this every time.
Just in rarely occasions.
And that's just one idea to show her she does not control you at all.

Hope that helps

I ain't saying good luck because you don't need it.

 

[The Truth]

Try finding a woman who doesn't do this from time to time! It's in their nature to try and manipulate guys, get their own way and sulk if they don't. Every woman I know does it, even my mum!

The key is to stand your ground and ignore any sulks she has afterwards. If she sulks or walks off, leave her to it and wait for her to come back and apologise. Or sometimes laughing at her and teasing her about sulking can be effective i.e. "awww is baby having a sulk?" and puts her childish behaviour in perspective.

Sometimes my girlfriend will ask me to do little things like close a door when she's sitting on the couch or fetch something for her. My response is "Who do you think I am? Your slave? Do it yourself, you lazy pig!" in a jokey and outraged kind of way (the tone has to be right).

It sounds like your girlfriend is a little extreme though, but the important thing is to completely ignore her drama. Don't try to talk to her when she's like this, just walk away.

 

[MacDiddy]

Is this a habit that can be broken?

Yes, but you need to dominate her... crush her spirit and subdue her...

She will thank you in the long run

 

[KillingTime]

Thanks for the tips, that's a good slap in the face that I needed b/c I think I have been getting a little soft lately... at the beginning I played it a lot better and she even told me herself that I was the first guy that didn't put up with any of her sh*t and for some reason she felt really drawn to that.
I've got to remember that i can't just get lazy and start letting things slip.