"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I fvcked up today...

Unbridled_Phoenix

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...and it was awesome.

Here's my cliffs notes: I am an attractive, well-built guy with good Provider credentials. I have always scoffed at day game, firstly because I was raised that men are working during the day. That mentality has served me well. I have also avoided day game because it seems to generate no emotions, puts the ball entirely in her court, and makes you look like you have nothing better to do than chase girls. That's cool when you're 20, but we all have to grow up.

I've also had it pretty easy with getting women in bars/socially. I've coasted on looks and charm. But since coming to SS, I realized that as good as I am with bar/night game, to be a Don Juan is to push one's comfort zone. So I began to accept the possibility that I may have had an aversion to day game out of fear, what with no alcohol and the mystery of night for this tall dark n handsome to ride in on.

There is an HB8 at a coffee shop I've been going to for awhile who loves to stare me in the eye all the time. I'm usually on career point when I'm in there, so I've been pleasant but gave her strong C&F once or twice. We have had this flirtation thing going for about two months. In truth my intention has been to use her as a training device for the concepts discussed here, as I know her to have a kid and a chubby AFC boyfriend. It's a small city. I wouldn't kick her out of bed, though.

I have played the mystery card with her big time. All along, I never asked for her name, and her eyes lit up when she saw mine on a business card I threw into their drawing bowl awhile ago. Today from across the room I heard someone address her by her name. When I was leaving, she said "See ya Will." I stopped.
Me: Hey I remembered your name today
Her: Oh yeah what is it
Me: *her name*
Her: *indicated I was correct*
Me: Yeah so kudos for you. See ya later

She acted a little offput, but I was already out the door.

Was this too big of an a$$hole move? I am a recovering Nice Guy/Relationship Guy, maybe I overcompensated. But like I said, this girl represents a training device on day game for me. Is my wonder if it was too much A-hole just a remnant from my days in the Matrix?

In any event, pushing my comfort zone and throwing myself in the fire is the new SOP.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I think it was a bit rude....hence her reaction. Your comments probably don't represent you as a person (which she is probably attracted to) and something you learnt from gaming 101 so when this incongruence came across she was thrown.
 

Unbridled_Phoenix

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You guys are right. Window hit the nail on the head, incongruence. I think the real problem I ran into was I didn't know how (or whether) to game the girl who is working behind the counter, thought way too much about it and subsequently got my ego involved, viola! incongruence city.
 
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