"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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i fvcked her

JLW

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well i ended up fvcking my gf. I thought I was gonna bust in like 5 seconds, but that was not the case at all.

It took me forever to ***, and i mean like over an hour. Now this could be viewed as a good thing, but the reason it took so long was cuz we were both virgins and basically didn't have a clue. We sucked.

I blame most of it on the condom. It pretty much dulled any feeling that I got out of it. I also didn't use any lube, but she was very wet so that may not make a difference. Whenever I would start to really pick up the pace and I was getting close, it would accidentally slip out. And it's not like my **** is that small, it's about 6 inches so I don't know why that kept happening.

I used the standard Trojan "For Her Pleasure" condoms. Do you think I should go with the ultra thins and use spermicidal lubricant? Or do you think it was more of a technique thing?

Anyone else experience this before? I mean, I dont understand why it would take such a long time.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Oh, and she came at least once. I think twice, though. I don't know how much that matters, but I guess it's worth mentioning.

I doubt she was faking it. She could be a great actor though, who knows.
 

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Even though I have no experience in this field, I think you should see this as a good thing!

I'm pretty sure your problems will fade in practice, and you should feel great that you are slow to the bust! From the sound of it, she might of had fun!
 

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Suprisingly, the key to good sex is not some secret formula or a g-spot. The key to good sex is communication. It's important to know what feels good where. To do so, you have to be able to communicate with your partner. You have to tell her to tell YOU what she likes, so it can be a mutual experience.

-Damian
 

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Ultra thins will make you bust REAL fast; its like not having a condom on at all. Give it a shot, sh*t feels damn good.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Try masturbating with a condom on. You will get more used to having condoms on if you do this a few times, and therefore it won't take you so long to *** when you're having sex.
 

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Since my gf was a virgin, she didnt want me to fvck her right away, so we have been doing a lot of other "stuff". I have fingered her and ate her out about a dozen times in the past month or two. She has, of course, returned the favor. We both have very good communicative skills since we are real comfortable around eachother. I'll try to do it more often, though.

But I mean, if I weren't in good shape there would be a good chance that I would just sort of flop over and die from exhaustion. 1 hour of NON-STOP fvcking with no breaks is not easy.

I guess ultra-thins are part of the solution as well as maybe a bit more communication.

Thanks a lot.
 

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Damn homie...

lol

There have been times where I've gone on for it seemed like forever. No way I could keep going for an hour lol. I'd get way too tired.

But alot of things contribute to not ejaculating. (known as anorgasmia i think) Alcohol can cause you not to bust, also can cause temporary "limpness". I would say that in your situation it was a combination of nervousness and a condom.

I personally hate condoms. It feels like nothing... absolutely nothing. Luckily my girl is on the pill so we don't HAVE to use a condom... but I also pull out.

I'm willing to bet her parents wouldn't be willing to get her on the pill lol. Another paradox of society. I'd ask her about it though. Even if you still use a condom, the pill is another way to put your mind at ease.

It'll get easier as you keep doing it. So keep ****in playa. lol
 
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