"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I friendzoned a girl, but realised I really like her

heartbreakkid__89

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I have been spent the past year hanging out and speaking with a girl from work. We used to see each other on the odd weekend, and then eventually most weekends. She suggested meeting during the week also. I started to feel it was getting too much. I had it in my mind that I like hanging out with her, but maybe she is not the one. So I spoke with her one night and mentioned that I only saw her as a friend. She was quite sad, and I felt bad for it.

The next day I woke up and literally all day could not stop thinking about her. It was the only thing I could think about, so in the evening I called her, and explained that what I said yesterday was not actually true. I do genuinely like her alot, and I think it wasn't what I actually wanted to get off my chest, most likely to get a bit of space. She said she felt very cautious by my words.

She messaged me before I went away for the weekend and said how she fancies me way too much, but she is a great girl and deserve to be treated by someone who actually likes me. She wants to feel wanted. She says it's getting complicated because we want different things. SHe feels like she is not getting the attention and security she would like.

Should I pursue it or accept that I've f*cked up and move on?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Alvafe

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if you really want to get her, do what you normally would do with any girl, ask her out and make out with her, words means little, actions do the whole work, just don't give any speachs of why or what, just go for it.

or it could also be lack of woman around, knowing a girl likes you when you didn't can make you feel like, well why not
 
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