I found this message from a guy on imdb.com

[Who Dares Win]

I'm one of them, my friend. I am 31 years old, 6'0 190 pounds and ripped....never even been on a date. I am a prime example that looks don't mean *beep* unless you have confidence to go with it. I had a relationship with a girl in grade 2 for a few years and that was the last relationship of any kind i had with a female lol. Now, i have zero friends and haven't even been on a date before. Been to a few parties here and there throughout college thinking my physique would surely attract some girls....nope no *beep* given. Every girl i have ever talked to "has a boyfriend". I eventually gave up and adopted the "everyone can just go *beep* themselves" attitude lol. I keep to myself other than my friday night drives to smoke a huge joint and get blitzed. As far as i am concerned, my main youth is over and i have absolutely no interest in 30 year old girls, so i'll wait and try harder next life i guess.



The dialogue from which this message comes can be found on imdb.com message board from the movie the 40 year old virgin.

So he basically get the look yet he admits to lack "confidence" while I believe its more about social skills, he attends parties where girls give him the "I have a bf" line probably sensing his akward vibes, he then adopts the "Im out" attitude, more like he decides to quit owning it rather than keep trying and keep being rejected, he then realize that at 30 his main youth (his words) is gone and makes it clear he has no interested in girls his age..wheter this lack of interest comes from psychological reasons or simple crappy look of older women cant be said.

The fact is that a guy withdrew himself from social norms and path, he said fvck to people and fvck to women, I guess in a matter of yrs he will also be able to say fvck to society and government since he has no family nor anything to lose.

So from a point of view he is free cause he own himself but from the other side he is an outsider, society has no grip over him while he has to ground to hold, multiply this for thousands in the upcoming years....think about economy, demography, social control and even the number of soldiers willing to enroll.

What do you think of all of this?

 

[mr. kennedy]

He either doesn't approach enough, approaches girls above his league, or has trouble reading signs of women that are interested.

 

[BeExcellent]

I've said it before and will say it again. Looks are not everything. They aren't. End of story. I have met or even been on a date with men who were gorgeous but for whatever reason had the personality of a doorknob. They got dropped immediately no matter how awesome looking.

 

[mr. kennedy]

I also find it odd that he never used OLD. He would be a prime candidate.

 

[Who Dares Win]

If I don't put myself out there, I get nothing. I'll get the occasional initiation by a group of girls goofing off. But that's it. It's not the female's job to approach, just give you the hint that you should come over and talk to them.

Why is this so hard for guys to get thru their brains?

Well about 80% of the girls giving the hint to approach them are actually fishing for attention then going on a power trip rejecting you.

Agree that many guys didnt get how it works but plenty did, and they got also how girls behave in many cases.

 

[Huffman]

If I don't put myself out there, I get nothing. I'll get the occasional initiation by a group of girls goofing off. But that's it. It's not the female's job to approach, just give you the hint that you should come over and talk to them.

Why is this so hard for guys to get thru their brains?

Only reason I can fathom is that we are formed by certain events in our childhood and teen years. Something happened back then that etched "I AM NOT ALLOWED TO HAVE IT" and "I'M NOT MEANT TO BE THIS WAY" into their brain, with a glowing iron. For some it's almost impossible to undo completely. Just look at all the "AFC relapse" threads.

This forum is not about doing and saying, it's about believing and becoming, a path on which many here embark completely alone, with just a bunch of internet articles to hold on to, while society shuns and hates them.

Once you have your first successes, you can see the light, you know you can do something! But if you can't reach that critical mass, you're doomed.
Maybe for that guy the programming was just too strong, and he is too weak. Nothing short of a divine intervention can save him. Hope he has an epiphany as soon as possible, starting on the right path better late than never.

 

[foreverAFC]

Only reason I can fathom is that we are formed by certain events in our childhood and teen years. Something happened back then that etched "I AM NOT ALLOWED TO HAVE IT" and "I'M NOT MEANT TO BE THIS WAY" into their brain, with a glowing iron. For some it's almost impossible to undo completely. Just look at all the "AFC relapse" threads.
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im pretty much a version of this guy, i mean all the years of being a lonely depressed loser and all the rejections, you cant just turn it off or forget about it.

 

[zekko]

Just a collection of thoughts here:

1) I'm thinking maybe this guy isn't as smoking hot looking as he thinks. But if he's 6'0", you'd think he'd be getting SOME attention, even if he's average looking.

2) I agree with Mr. Kennedy, I'm thinking he might be going after girls out of his league. Especially if he only goes after girls his age, other 30 year olds. Lol, by 30, the hottest girls are all snatched up. You have to get lucky by finding one coming out of a relationship, or else date younger.

3) This guy should date younger. But it doesn't occur to him that he can date outside his own age.

4) This guy probably has no personality. Just a pot smoking loser with nothing going on in his life. So there's nothing interesting about him.

5) I agree with Who Dares Win, probably has a shortage of social skills.