"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I found out the girl I liked has a boyfriend now

Deicide

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I found out the girl I liked has a boyfriend now, yeah, the one I asked out in high school and kept sending MySpace messages unsuccessfully. It makes me wish I had more game in the past and I could've been with her, but there's nothing to change the past. I knew it would happen someday but it hurt more than I thought it would. And it felt like back when I was rejected again. So now I'm really not sure what to do with my love life, I've learned through this forum that I have terrible game and am an AFC, but there's just nothing to go with, I can't find anyone I'd like to be my girlfriend, basically I feel hopeless. It seems like everyone around me is getting in relationships and getting with girls, and me, who is almost 20, has been left in the dust. I'm in college but much to what everyone has said about how easy it is to get girls at college, things just haven't gone my way here and it's very likely I'll graduate never having had a girlfriend, but at least I'm on the way to graduating.
Do you have any ideas or suggestions about what I should do now?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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WesCottII

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Stop with the self pity? It's such a useless emotion. . .

If this site has taught you you're game is currently under-par, it should also have shown you that "Impossible is nothing".

You need to kill the belif that having a girlfriend, or having sex is somehow going to complete your life. Women are a compliment to life, not the focus of it. Focus on becoming your best self, and kill of this desperation to find a woman.

If you want, go out ala Mystery, and talk to women until you find what works.
 

Mavrick

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I have a suggestion or a tip rather.

Relationships aren't what they are cracked up to be. I'll put money on it one day that you'll be married and have kids, and you'll long for the days when you were single. You'll be asking yourself why you made the mistake.

You're young and almost out of college. You're not giving yourself any credit. That's a good accomplishment. A woman will not make you who you are. You have to find that in yourself and love yourself. Once you do, women will flock to you.

You have to learn not to get down about a woman or rejection from a woman because she is just giving you freedom to go find more or at least one who gives a damn. The harder you search the less likely you will find.

Say the following statement many times and try to understand what it means. This is your task until you understand it.

The hungry don't get fed.

Another one I want you to say and understand it the following:

The fat get fed, not the hungy
 
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