Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I found an EQ vs IQ test done on CEO's...

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Innovators Alliance did a study of 76 CEOs, 61 males and 15 females. Average age, 44, with 50%, 45 years old or younger. 70% have been running their companies for 15 years or less, and 45% of them have run their companies for 6 years or less. Sixty percent of these CEOs founded their company. When tested on EQ (using the BarOn EQ-i), these were the results.


1. The average IQ score, is 100. The Innovators Alliance CEOs averaged 104.


This is "statistically significant" (a statistical term), but not a huge difference.

2. Highest score was in Independence - 112.


Not surprisingly for a group of high growth business leaders.

3. Next highest was in Assertiveness - 109.


This means being able to express your thoughts, feelings and beliefs somewhere between passively and aggressively and being able to completely disagree with someone and remain friendly. We'll all be glad to know "The aggressive 'bullying boss' is definitely out of style," they say. "Today’s leaders who rely on bullying tactics all too soon discover that there will be nobody left to be lead."


4. Optimism was next highest, where they scored 108.


They particularly use optimism as a strategy, a way of dealing with difficulties. Rather than crying over spilt milk, they immediately start thinking about how they'll do it differently the next time.

5. In Self-Actualization, they scored 107.


Self-Actualization has 2 components - having passion for what you do, and being well-rounded. People high in S-A have a wide variety of interests, hobbies, and social activities to which they devote both quantity and quality time.

6. In Self-Regard, 105.


This means a strong sense of self, confidence in one's abilities, and reality appraisal of one's strengths and weaknesses. People high in S-R delegate readily, have people around them who compensate for their weaknesses, and often use coaches.

7. What did they score lowest in? Impulse Control (84), and Interpersonal Relationships (96).


Not the greatest at networking, initiating, and building relationships, or being "people-oriented." Low impulse control is quite below average. It can get you into trouble, lead to poor interpersonal relationships, high anger, poor judgment and faulty decision-making.



8. What were the sex differences?


Interpersonal Relationships - Women - 104 v. Men - 95; Empathy - Women, 104 v. Men - 96; Emotional Self-Awareness - Women 110 v. Men, 102.

9. What differentiated the super stars (judged by sound business practice and solid revenue streams) among this group?


Empathy, Self Regard and Assertiveness.

10. What EQ traits help with what challenge?


- Hiring the right people was easiest for CEOs who scored high on flexibility.
- Managing people was easiest for CEOs who were high in self-actualization, impulse control, reality testing, self-regard, happiness and stress tolerance.
- Keeping good people was easiest for CEOs highest in interpersonal relationship, self-regard, flexibility, optimism, happiness, stress tolerance and self-actualization.
- Training people was easiest for CEOs who were high in assertiveness, reality testing, interpersonal relationships, self-regard, flexibility, optimism, happiness, and self actualization.
- Managing Growth was easiest for CEOs who were high in flexibility, optimism, and problem solving.
- Dealing with changes in technology was easiest for CEOs who were high in flexibility, and stress tolerance.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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S1NN3R

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Phoenix_of_the_ashes said:
Its interesting that their IQs are only an average 4 points above average population.
I'm not surprized. The best leaders have always been those with higher emotional development rather than intellectual. IQ tests are largely regurgitation and linear thought, whereas making a Fortune 500 company from the ground up requires innovation and abstract ideals. Those with super high IQs have a higher occurance of being emotionally under-developed compared to the socially exemplary personality types. With few exceptions, great leaders are just regular people with unparalleled social skills.
 
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