"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I found a new girl, but i need help FAST!

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I found this amazing girl. She's hot as hell and has a great personality, but i need a better personality. My personality has bad traits which are hard to fix, but building good ones is hard and confusing for me. People dont think i'm funny. I want to be i try to be as loose as possible, but i just cant get it right. I watch a ton of comedy thanks to your guys advice, but it isn't help. Also i have a huge problem with conversation. The bible said to ask questions and her opinion and stuff, but that stuff bores me to death and i cant constantly think of questions. I want to make an entertaining conversation, which really makes her want to engage with me. Can you guys help?

THANX, Rint
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Your mentality is really holding you back. You can't improve your personality so much as you can simply reduce your fears, and insecurities until you become the person you want to be. I think the articles explain it better than I do.
 

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What article? Come on guys usually i can be patient becoming a DJ, but this time it's serious. She seems into me, but i know my bad personality will drive her away.
 

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What article? Come on guys usually i can be patient becoming a DJ, but this time it's serious. She seems into me, but i know my bad personality will drive her away.
Relax, dude!

This isn't the last woman that's going to be into you. You might say: No no, this one is really hot and I can't allow myself to screw this up.
Bull****. There are more hot women out there then you can possibly date.

Have you gotten her on a date already?
What is the situation?
Gotten her number?

Ow, and stop viewing your personality as bad. It's exactly what it's supposed to be right now (evidence: it is). Accept that and than you'll be able to improve it.
 
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Dude, you are 15???? Your scope is limited!!! Talk about what 15 year olds talk about nowadays!!!! "Lick me" "Blow me" :rolleyes:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ok first off people stop being surprised i'm 15. I wanna improve and i'm that dedicated yes. 2nd the situation is vague. We talked once alone and we say hi to each other alot.
 
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OK kid, we can't improve YOUR communication skills - the best thing to do is to invite her to a fun, active-oriented activity!!
 

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any other advice? One that can help me build a personality that would attract her?
 
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Rint said:
any other advice? One that can help me build a personality that would attract her?
"Personality" - exhibits who YOU are to other people!! You are asking for a lot for us to change!! Your problem is your communication!! This involves your brain - a "technique" is not going to help you!!!
 

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I know i just need some advice to changing my personality for the better
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Your "personality" is mostly genetic and partly (small part) environmental - (transformable) - know your strengths and exhibit those qualities!!
 

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I really think personality is key to becoming a great DJ. I have a friend whose amazing with girls his name is LJ, but he is so damn good with them. He's dating the hottest girl at my school, and still steals other guys girlfriends even the upperclassmen girls like him. All i know is he's nice and cool, but people see him as that cause of his personality. I want to be better then him, but thats REALLY hard with my personality versus his.
 
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NEVER compare your worth, as a human being, to another person's existence!! !0 years from now he may be a loser and you may be the greatest man in history!!! He may be great at gaining friends and women based on what he has now (which is short-lived) but you may be greater in different areas!! In younger years of life you think being popular is what it is all about -- to the contrary!!!! Do not look at the temporary --- look at the permanent -- the everlasting!!!

Don't try to be "better" than anyone else - be YOUR best!!!! This is what YOU have control of!!
 
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