"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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basbhat

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Hey guys,

The past two years I have been quite involved in improving myself and dating occasionally when I have had time. Unfortunately, all of the women I have dated have ended up being too slutty, one night stand material, and I could not find a girl who I actually LIKED!

For once, I've found a girl I like(at least so far.....one date and counting! I actually am dating 2 girls presently, but I am more interested in one than the other...). Though I have only went on one date with her, I sense she is a very responsible, sweet, sexy, and loving person(I am aware of what oneitis is-I don't have it!) This is the kind of girl I want to date!! I'm actually excited by the person, and not the prospects of getting some. I also believe she is interested in me(gave me "the eyes" all night, kept close contact, occasionally grabbed me, gave me a "sample massage", and asked me if I was enjoying myself, etc....I assume these are all good signs! She even told me she was all nervous when I asked for her #-I met her on a cold approach, got the # and the first date...)

I'm 25 yrs. old and have dated some really crappy women. I have my life together, am confident with women, and always trying to improve myself. I expect to meet someone who is close to the same, but have found it very hard.

Guys, when you meet or have met someone that you really liked, how did you handle yourself? I find myself looking at all of the postive things that happened on the date between us, yet there is this little demon that says,"She is not interested-you need more proof!". I guess having had bad relationships and no luck when it comes to actually dating a cool girl, has left me with a "Maybe I don't deserve to find a good relationship" mentality.

Unfortunately, I believe the way I have viewed women as objects of lustful fulfillment, has really hindered my ability to seek out positive relationships(not all this bang a chick, then the next one crap...Makes me feel like trash..). I know what to do with women(when to call, how to act, etc.), but it is this feeling of insecurity that has led me to post.

I know it is stupid to ask questions like, "Is she interested?, How do I set up the 2nd date?, etc. I know it all comes down to confidence. Yet, confidence doesn't fill the void. I can be confident until my head pops off and a girl may or may not like me. I just wanted to write this for the hell of it. Thanks guys, peace
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Right outside of a grocery store...She was on her lunch break with some friends. I chatted her and her friends up and # closed.
 

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To break the ice I made eye contact w/ her, smiled, and said "hey, what's your name?....I noticed all of you girls have nice smiles...(all of the girls teeth were really white-they really stood out-and it turns out they all worked at the dentist together!) and proceeded from there. Just a sincere smile and a sincere compliment! All of the girls were instantly receptive. I actually didn't even have to ask for her # directly-she kind of knew the drill! I knew that she was checking me out before I approaced as well...peace!
 

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NO! NO! NO! you need to NEG her! GOD!...




just kidding ,good job dude :cheer:


sometimes it's easiest to be confident but it's the hardest to
be vulnerable enough to be sincere and genuine when it matters most :(
 

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Don't get swept up in the community and all the one-itis bashing. Some guys here I think quit this stuff too quickly, as soon as they find a warm body. Others, they get so caught up in building a "lifestyle" that they chuck great girls aside and end up spinning their wheels, and wind up worse of than when they began.

If you really like her, and she feels the same way, go for it. There is no shame in doing PU, or quitting PU for a special girl.

Keep yourself open to the idea of a relationshp with her, or the idea of NEXTING her. Don't rush in, and don't freeze out.

Do what feels right.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by Sargeholic
Some guys here I think quit this stuff too quickly, as soon as they find a warm body.




:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
i know after the first 3 girls i'd end up chosing which one
i liked the most and just stick with her for the next 8-10 months!
soo much for my game!

is it soo wrong that i enjoy kickin' it with a chick and just lay
around,watch TV and eat beef jerky on a friday night?
of course not! :woo:
 
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