I forgot the freaking fundamentals!!

[Mr. Latte]

So I'm talking with my best friend (of a year or 2), who I've been casually dating for a few weeks. She asks "Do you want to be exclusive?", to which I intelligently reply "sure". And I get "oh, because I just want to be friends." Has the DJ himself forgotten about the element of challenge? lol

That being said, it's not awkward @ all, we're still cool, thankfully.

 

[Julian]

Damn. I hate pulling those simplistic mistakes.

 

[Mr. Latte]

It's not about mistakes....it's about the "this is my best friend/girlfriend/longtime dog groomer, so these things aren't important, I can be HONEST." Rookie mistake, from a non-rookie.

 

[So pimp its scary]

Dont beat yourself up for that... you simply misread her signals.

Pick yourself up, and move on... hey, at least you know where you guys stand now. Keep the game up with her, and maybe she will change her ways, but don't count on it.

 

[iqqi]

personally, i think she was a b!tch for that. that statement was entrapment, misleading! she deserves to be PLAYED now! and look how you are second guessing yourself. what a biooootch!

 

[Mr. Latte]

Hmmm, I brought that up with her, and she says I wasn't listening correctly, she said "what do you think about being exclusive?", and I took it as "why can't we be exclusive?" No biggie, I'm over it. We're great friends, and a relationship would almost certainly have killed that.It's all good

 

[slickjesse]

"what do you think about being exclusive?" was such a trap set for you buddy. of course the logical meaing for that question should be "i want to be exclusive". so dont be hard on yourself...any guy with some serious interest in a girl would interpret it that way and go for it

 

[bp1974]

Iqqi's got it right, she was and is playing little b*tchy control games, probably just for fun, to see if she can.

It's always easier for a woman to spot another woman's games, I guess that's what the ******** translator is for.

 

[MisterAl]

You should not feel bad at all. In fact I don't understand why you consider this woman your friend.

When a normal woman who cares about your feelings asks you about being exclusive after dating for a while, she isn't about to slam you with a rejection.

Best case: She read your signals like a book and as a friend tried to let you off without hurting you, but was too stupid to do it right.

Worst case: She read your signals and wanted to feel control, embarrass you and make you feel bad so she ambushed you and LJBFed your ass on purpose.

 

[princelydeeds]

If you want to get her back, start DJing a bunch of chicks right in her face. I guarantee she will change her behavior.

She wanted to see if she could have you. So now show her that you can't be tamed. I would confide in her a story about some girls asking you similar questions and you giving them the same answer. Act like you say that to all the ladies. Wait alittle while before you do it try to wait until after shes seen you in full mack mode.

If shes your best friend why are you interested being exclusive with her?