"i Find U Attractive" (whamm Then Out Of No Where.. Ljbfed! Wtf!?!)

[FoxHound20]

WTF?

Life sometimes throws you some major curveballs.

So I meet this chick in my class. 2 weeks later after a number score, we go out tonite on a """date""", and the date was about an 7-8 on entertainment scale (action date (bowling), and food after). Here's the catch though, at the end of the date I'm beginning to get tired of games, and decide to break a truly aggressive question her way:

"Do you view this as a date or just friend's hanging out".

This caught her off guard and then her response was truly puzzling.

"I find you attractive............. but this is just two friends hanging out. It's hard when I dated two of your friends.. it's just hard.. do you view this as a date?"
(This chick dated (****ed) two of my buds (semi-close acquaintances) from a year ago). I've known this chick for two weeks and I already get LJBFed.. after the first night of hanging out alone together..haha.

So I bull****ed my way into telling her that I feel the same "Just Friends", but I'm almost certain that I came across as a liar.

Haha this one truly left me puzzled.. but after further looking into the whole LJBFed event, I'm left with the conclusion that my asking her the question was a truly retarded thing to do. I'm almost wondering though if I put her on the spot with that question and she had to defend herself with that claim.. I almost feel kind of bad tossing it her way, but I'm not patient when it comes to games.. I hate getting LJBFed.. and I didn't want to waste another night pondering if this chick is truly worth the effort.

But now... one thing that I do know for sure, is that I won't have to waste anymore time trying to pick this chick up.

 

[1hepcat]

Originally posted by FoxHound20
WTF?

"Do you view this as a date or just friend's hanging out".

You already bolded the problem for us. What you said is,
"So, um, do you like me, ya know, as more than a friend?"

It's not a confident thing to say. Saying that kind of thing isn't going to give her that tingling feeling downstairs.

So my take on her response is that she told you she thinks you're good looking, but since you have no self confidence, she isn't interested.

You're right, it was a truly retarded thing to do. I don't think you bullsh*tted her at all on that. You told her everything by asking that quesiton.

If you're out on a date-like activity, it's a date. DON'T ask if it's a date. You wouldn't ask in a job interview if they were really considering you for the job, would you? It would make you look like you had no faith whatsoever in your qualifications.

Your attitude should always be that it is a date.

 

[Starman]

hepcat is right man,

you totally played out your AFC card by asking "Hey! Im only into serious women for a SERIOUS relationship! is this a date or a friendship thing? because I ONLY wanna get serious!"

get your AFC frustration under check bro..you dont want to play the game, and want to get into a needy desperate relationship right away..and women SENSE this

YES, she found you attractive/good looking..but too needy, rushing, desperate and demanding

you cant get "tired of the game"..otherwise you are a forfeiter..a loser..

How old are you BTW .. and why are you sick of "playing the game"?

you sound like your the type of guy who cant enjoy female company/sex unless its something serious

GET OUT OF THAT MINDSET if you want to survive

 

[GTS Jeff]

well even after making the mistake of asking that question, u could have saved your ass by saying "well i view this as a fun date with a good looking girl...and if ure lucky, ull get another fun date from me."

 

[FoxHound20]

Damn, you guys are straight up correct.

Yeah,

I'll admit straight up:

I was a complete AFC last night in the final minute of that date. One of my afc tendancies came out and it definately ruined whatever feeling she had.

"I'm tired of playing games". Yeah this was a statement that I made last night after I got home.. its a summarization of how I felt at the time of posting the message. In actuality I feel pretty pathetic posting this message last night because with the start of the new day, I realize that it was completely my fault and I played the game wrong.

Completley Wrong! *slaps sell across face with a giant tuna.* .

However, if there is one thing good about this situation it is that I gained an experience that I can truly study and learn from.