I find myself overanalysing a lot.

[Chamber36]

I often want to give females a compliment, but then a voice in my head tells me not to stroke their ego.

The first time I meet a girl I can hit it off and just get home-runs one after the other. They might invite me to the dancefloor, but I usually decline because I don't follow women, and then I never see them again. The ones that are easy like this are also generally below my standards though.

I only really want to go for 8's, 9's and 10's.

Now I've got a problem with the HB9's. They always try to make me chase after them. Especially when I don't have the number. Often times I only have a really short conversation and I feel like I need a "time bridge" in order to get the number.

I mean I used to ask for numbers without makin a time bridge or even asking for the name. I usually got a number, and I actually got quite a few responses and stuff. It's just that I had a few let-downs which make me want to be really thorough. That's why I want to ask for the name before I ask for the number, etc.

Thing is though, they might throw themselves in my arms on the dancefloor for about 2-3 minutes, and if I don't make out with them within that window, I failed.

 

[Aaron B]

Your logic needs to dictate your actions, not your emotions.

How you feel about things is not a "problem to be solved" or a "stimulus to be acted upon"

Imagine putting your hand on a hot stove but today your reflex to pull it away is gone, and your hand can't be burned, yet you still feel the pain.

That's how your emotions should work. When you feel the emotion, don't reflexively pull away from the emotion or feel pressured to act on the emotion ("pulling your hand away"). Feel it. Think about it. Be there with it.

Then figure out the best course of action and DO THAT regardless of how you feel about it.

If you go around acting on your emotions, you will fail with women. Period.

Don't compliment her because you know for a fact it won't advance you towards your goal of inserting your penis into her vagina.

 

[Chamber36]

ok, I believe you answered my question about as well as it could be answered.

I'll just have to trust my inner voice over my instincts; think more with my head than with my d*ckhead. It's just sorta hard to let go of my old ways cuz I used to get lucky every now and then. Fact of the matter is, girls had less game back in the day. We were all younger and easier. Things changed. It's like switching from checkers to chess. Sometimes you just have to reanalyse the causes and effects of things you do, and try to adapt.

I'll just keep it cryptic with the ladies and not show my cards.

So thanks for the advice.

 

[Aaron B]

your instincts don't work because you have been indoctrinated with a series of beliefs that cause women to see you as desperate and needy, which kills any chance of attraction

and that isn't your fault. start by unlearning all that nonsense.

I would say the problem here isn't that you think too much with your penis. It's that you are expected to pretend like your motivations aren't sexual in origin.

In reality, when a man makes no apologies for his sexual desire and accepts that what women respond to is exactly what society teaches you not to be, then you are free to do what men do with women

I've had women make fun of men for our high sex drives "men are pigs, all they want is sex, men think of sex every 7 seconds blah blah"

My response is this: "We have to be this way, otherwise human beings would cease to exist. If it weren't for our powerful sex drives, we would have almost nothing to do with you women. My sex drive and lust for women is a major reason why all of us are even here in the first place"

I am what I am, and I'm not going to be made to feel like what I am is bad and wrong.

A disconnect occurs between how you view yourself and what the society has conditioned you to be.

You think you are a special and unique individual, then you experience all these problems dealing with women and you take it personally as a reflection of who you are as a person. When in reality it is the society that is broken, flawed, and sick.

Every single one of your ancestors managed to procreate. It's simply not a big deal, but we allow it to be made into one.

 

[Chamber36]

So the women are flawed causing them to see my natural behavior as desperate. So how do I be unapologetically sexual and not come off as desperate?

I usually mirror the girls' behavior, I already learned that I naturally do this last year. Sometimes they want to be swept off their feet, in which case they usually fall in my arms, I believe I may have made a mistake with a chick that did that with me last friday simply by not going for the make-out. These girls want to be ravaged sometimes. We as men luckily don't need to be warmed up as much as they do, so we should just be able to sweep in and go for the kill.

What's happened to women, I think, has caused them to try to assess you within 5-10 minutes, and they will see if you fit the picture they had in their heads. If the female wants a long slow seduction, you have to be the one to slowly seduce her, if she wants you to make out with her within those 5-10 minutes, then you better do it within that time frame or you'll miss your chance. Sometimes you got to wait for an hour then you got to move quickly. If you reach that point, and you don't go in for the kill, that's usually when the trouble starts.

If this happens I think the best course of action is non-action. It's better to direct my sexuality towards girls who I haven't messed things up with. This might seem basic but we're all attracted to women who we perceive to be high value. I guess the trick is to recognize when there's no point in directing your attention towards a girl anymore.

The fact of the matter is that it happens quite quickly. Sometimes a girl might have high IL for a long time, but it's rare. They say you have to pass 8/10 ****-tests before you can get into a girls pants, but this isn't true. Sometimes the ****-test is that they offer you their pvssy, and if you decline you lose.