"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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i find it weird that people have energy to be extraverted and active

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I was just out walking in town, lotta HBs about. Hardly any face masks.

Anyway I was wearing all black, black sneakers, long black ankle length shorts and plain black T shirt, no logos.

And I felt insignificant. I'm used to dressing loudly, and I walk with a swagger when I do. Today I practically slumped. Not quite but you get the idea. I felt really uncomfortable and underdressed.

Is this introverted thinking? I reckon it's the opposite. And yet I'm a highly asocial person...
There was a time where being underdressed was uncomfortable for me as well, now I'm so comfortable in my own skin I could go out wearing pretty much anything. I don't think introversion has as much to do about that as insecurity and self-consciousness about what others may think about your looks.

You could be the type of person who's not that into talking, but yet love it when people notice and look at you.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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