I finally understood.

[Infraction]

I joined the community 6 months ago.
At first, i started reading everything that i could: The DJ bible, The book of pook and the forums. Like everyone, I thought i knew everything untill i started using what i learnt on the field (it was a disaster).

After that i gained experience from the field and i was doing well.
But one thing bugged me:
If i selcted a "target" she didn't like me, only girls that i wasn't gameing liked me.

In these 6 months all i cared about was girls. I didn't really change, i acted like i was confident but my inner-game was dying. And now, i have no targets and i suddenly i feel so much better.

The point is not to let it control your life, because if you do you won't get anywhere.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

The game isn't about 'them.'

 

[Infraction]

The game isn't about 'them.'

Thanks alot, this is a great post.

 

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Seems like when you don't have any specific targets, the rest of your life (the important stuff) gets the attention it deserves, and paradoxically, makes you more attractive to women. Because you're not looking for them necessarily, this indifference turns off the neediness that pushes girls away, thus they are drawn to you naturally. This has been my experience.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Seems like when you don't have any specific targets, the rest of your life (the important stuff) gets the attention it deserves, and paradoxically, makes you more attractive to women. Because you're not looking for them necessarily, this indifference turns off the neediness that pushes girls away, thus they are drawn to you naturally. This has been my experience.

That's exactly how it works. :yes:

 

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That's exactly how it works. :yes:

Good to know I'm onto something.

I've only "discovered" this mindest in the last several months. It's the times I forget it that I seem to get in trouble.

 

[djSlvt]

But one thing bugged me:
If i selcted a "target" she didn't like me, only girls that i wasn't gameing liked me.

Yea! Natural. That is because women have defences and needs. That is, when you sargin a girl she will have natural defences and shields, which you go in and disarm. Other girls around, have a need for attention, and they desire attention you are giving to your target. But believe me, once you switch, they will bask in that attention and then switch on the shields.

The point is not to let it control your life, because if you do you won't get anywhere.

I'm from DD's school of thought, and the point you are making is called living in your own reality. Things you done wrong is live in girl's reality, you let her control you (in your own words), that carries a ton of negative things associated with you. Good ting you learned what is right.


Read DD man, DJ bible is good, but DD is very good. Gunwitch is good too. Field is the best, but that is for practice and further understanding, you go out there with an idea, and you learn what it means.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Good to know I'm onto something.

I've only "discovered" this mindest in the last several months. It's the times I forget it that I seem to get in trouble.

Here's the secret as to never forget; make it your lifestyle. Yes, on the surface it seems selfish but consider this, how much of your life is focused on doing for and impressing others? Just how many of these things do you genuinely want to do for your own benefit without the influence of any other person? Make it your lifestyle such like breathing. How often do you forget to breath?

 

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Not often. I have an affirmation of the way I want to be and I keep saying it over and over. Brainwashing myself. I like your comment about lifestyle, I know the type of guy I want to be, I know what he looks like and acts like, and feels like. So I'm just going to start being that guy now, until it comes second nature to me.

 

[Infraction]

I like to consider myself a mix of DD and MM. The dj bible is mostly DD stuff.
Today, i just thought of it like this : I am the only person that i KNOW that exists so all the other people are just my imagination.

My mom, My brother, my freinds- They all are my creation.
This board, My house EVERYTHING is only exists in my imagination.
And if i will ask someone "Are you real" my imagination would answer.

With this mindset, rejection in nothing more that something you imagined.