"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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i finally kissed her

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I had the flu for the last few days so I couldnt do much with the asian chick. Last sat nite I ended up going to my mates 20th, he was just having a bbq n some drinks. Got this HB6.5 blondes #. The next sunday was church. I was gonna ask the asian chick to come for lunch with me. But my mate already did. So it was me, her, my mate and his gf. We went to this japenese restaurant. We had to wait for half an hour for a table. So I said I was gonna go for a walk around the mall. I start walking, my mates gf couldnt be bothered cos she wanted to stay with my mate. The asian chick tells me to wait for her n she comes along. Then she says she wants to check out amazon, this surf shop. I was ok, but I gotta go to Pagani, this chicks store. She laughs, I tell her I am serious, I gotta go see a chick mate of mine. And she looks really surprised, but I tell her she can come along and we can go amazon after. On the way she asks me what I have been upto. I say I just went on a date last nite to a bbq (I was making crap up about the date). Things didnt go well, the chick was really boring, so I dropped her off early and went n got with this other chick. The asian chick rubs my shoulder n shes like what a stud. I dont say anything. When we get to Pagani, I wave to my chick mate, n the asian chick says she will just go chat to her mate. I talk to my mate for a while n go meet up with asian chick in amazon. At amazon we just chit chat theres still too many people around. I tickle her she laughs n says dont I am really ticklish. We end up going back to the restaurant after a while. At the table I am sitting beside her. But cos my mates are there n the chef is cooking at right in front of us. I get no chance. Then these other two asian chicks come sit at a table next to us. After a while I make a comment saying one of them is kinda pretty. The asian chick asks me if I am into asian chicks or do I like them? I was like huh? I just reply saying they are not bad. I was being sarcastic. My mate hears us, n he asks the asian chick what kinda guys shes into. She says anything but not asian. Not after the lunch I couldnt offer her to come over to my place, cos my sister is there n my parents too. I am moving out next year when I turn 21.


sunday evening comes. I will make this one short. At church I go sit in my usual seat at back. Her other two chick mates (mates of mine as well, they are ugly so no point displaying romantic interest in those two) are sitting in the same seat but on my right. She comes over n asks if my mate is sitting beside me, I was about to say no, but her mate says no. She then ends up siting in the empty seat beside me n her mate. I dont say much just shake hands. I offer her a throatie cos I was eating them hard out cos of my cold. She asks me if I am sick. I was like yea been the whole day. She was like really. FAst forward to the end. I lean into her while they were praying she leans into me as if I am about to whisper something, i tell her she kinda smells nice. N shes like she cant smell much cos of her blocked nose. I tell her she smells like lavender, n shes like really?I have no clue what that crap smells like but I give her a quick peck on the cheek. She quickly turns around n looks at me with this confused/surprised look on her face. N i say what? Then she says did u just kiss me? I was like yep I am pretty sure I did. Then she just turns forwards again. When the service finsihed there was a meeting going on about what to do for pastors 50th. I ended up staying cos theres an argument going on n didnt wanna be rude n just get up n walk off. The chick n her mates at this time are just joking around n laughing. I pretend not to take notice. They kinda leave after a while. I just end up staying n listening for a while, cos I didnt wanna get up straight away. I didnt see her again.

I have noticed that I am having problems with chicks I end up liking. Like at the party my other mates gf mate was interested in me, cos I could see it in her eyes n she was asking questions about me to my mates gf. the other chick whose number I got was interested in me too cos she would always smile at me n give me those eyes. I was just like whos ur daddy, hhehe.:D I dunno if I am putting these chick on pedestal ( the ones i like )cos I hardly compliment them, some times take the piss out of them or I am acting desperate in front of them. hmmmmm
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Where those girls at ht end laughing about u ya think? hmm dont ask me why im interested os much but after all ur posts its like some addictive day time drama show .. haha.. Ask her out again. If she says yes she knows whats up. She knows you have a romantic interest for sure, but make sure u still let her know u have options and dont care TOO much....
hahahahahahaha, cheers dude. Nope her n her mates werent laughing at me first. Cos there was an argument going on they kinda started making jokes about it but really quietly n giggling about it. Cos she has the cold as well her mate told her to use my jumper to wipe her nope. It was meant to a joke (some chicks are just dry). Then the asian chick was making small movements with her leg really fast in a repetitive manner if u know what I mean and I could feel the vibrations so I looked at her n she looked at me n stopped. When I turned around her n her mates started giggling again, and I just pretended not to take take notice. I didnt talk to her after church I was just like, ah who cares, I am not gonna go chase her around. Man lucky no one saw me during prayer pulling this stunt but they all probably know now, hahahaha.

Well this morning, my mum asked me to invite all my mates over for dinner this coming sat. and this includes the asian chick as well, cos shes kinda mates with my sis. My mum makes really nice food n all my mates having been wanting to come over for ages. I was like oh brother. So I text one of her mates n told her blah blah blah, come for dinner, tell chick1 n asian chick as well to come, I am running out of credit so I cant text them personally. The mate rings me up in 15 mins, n shes like who do u want to invite for the dinner. I gave her the list. Its just 5 ppl all up. Then she tells me dude asian chick wont be able to make it, cos shes working sat. nite but she would love to come. I said hmmmm, oh ok I was about to say it will just be us then. Then she tells me to change the date to the next day, sunday after church. I was like hmmm, let me get things sorted on my side first but it should be ok.

Then she tells me about the trip to wellington. Its meant to be her and the asian chick going. And yes I was the only one the asian chick asked. Then her mate tells me how the asian chick told her that it would so cool if deadly_assassin came along. I like really!!! but on the phone i kept my cool saying oh yep i would enjoy it as well, first time. Then she asks me if I am keen to go to the movies with her tomorrow. I was like yea sure. I doubt this is a date, I mean this chick is 23 n not exactly attractive. I pretty much look at her as one of the guys. But something fishy is going on, I think everyone knows I like the asian chick. I hope not.

Well even though I so want to ask her out, theres the other chick i met at the bbq. Shes alright looking, really cool person, n she nearly made it for nz reps for soccer. hmmmm

what u studying at MIT dementia?
 

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yea I didnt exactly talk to her much after, cos as soon as that happened the prayer finished, n everyone was looking up n stuff. N our church is kinda small so people can notice other people talking unless u whisper really really softly.

Another thing, after the bbq, I went to planet bar for this social with my other mate who picked me up. When we got to the place there were some hotties including shannon from shortland street n this other one cant remember her name. N the asian chick from shortland street( Lei mai?) her white bf off the TV was there as well. I was keen to dance with them, but cos I have stuffed my left knee I couldnt be bothered doing much that night.
 

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All this hoopla over.... this?

Originally posted by Deadly_Assassin
I give her a quick peck on the cheek.
:confused:


... er, well I guess a congratulations is in order for even making a move in the first place. So WELL DONE for getting over your fears. But in the grander scheme of things, what you did was so-so.


A peck on the cheek is not "a kiss". That what I did to my grandma, before she passed away. That's what I do to my moms when I see her. You do that to your kid when you send him/her off to school. What you *don't* do - is kiss a potential mate like that. You kiss her boldly on the mouth, with tongue if you're over 18. :D So while I give you an A+ for getting over your fears, I give you a C- for actual achievement. Unless the Asian girl you kissed is a total geekazoid who is thrilled that a guy actually approached her. Then you won't have to worry about your mediocre moves and what she thought of it - she was probably happy.


I didn't mean to rain on your parade but I just wanted to remind you of your ultimate goal. Good luck with this girl.
 

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yea u do have a point with just a peck on the cheek, a bit wussy but i wouldnt mind giving her a nice soft wet one on the lips sometime soon during church. hhahah. Nah just when we are alone.

Yea I gotta keep improving my game and get more bold.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Isn't kissing a girl in church a sin? I guess if was done out of 'brotherly' love it isn't a sin afterall :)

A peck on the cheek - man I miss those days of my youthful innocence!!
 

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if shes your wife, you can kiss in church n stuff but not sex, cos thats a bit full on n dont wanna scare the kids. And no way did I kiss her in no brotherly fashion.
 

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if shes your wife, you can kiss in church n stuff but not sex, cos thats a bit full on n dont wanna scare the kids. And no way did I kiss her in no brotherly fashion.


A peck on the cheek - man I miss those days of my youthful innocence
A while later down the track I am gonna look at this little stunt of mine n have a big laugh about it.
 
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