I FINALLY get it, please don't let it be too late for some of you.

[Demonicale]

For years I've lurked on this forum, soaking up all the information i can about women and how to attract them.

For years i thought it was "them" and not "me" who were the problem. I'm here to say 90% of the problems your having is on you, NOT THEM.

Want to keep this short, so will be a bit vague. But I've finally had a "wow moment". I took a long look at what was wrong with my life in regards to the opposite sex. I worked out it was me, I've been acting like a ***** and a *****.

The OLD me would see a women I'm attracted to and do NOTHING but look the other way. It was pathetic and i was a loser. So i went away and took apart all the areas of my life in regards to women and have come up with a simple solution.

You see a girl you like? go ****ing talk to her, but be brief and get to the point. Introduce yourself, then ask to meet up with her ... it's THAT easy.

No this isn't something new, it's basic 101 for picking up women. But if you've been a useless prick with women for years, even the most basic stuff is ignored or brushed aside.

In doing this I've now started dating a women who in looks department is waaaay above what i consider myself to be. I'm just saying if you like someone ask what time their off work and then say "good, you've time to meet up with me for a drink".

You really have to nail down your route cause of your confidence issue. The worst thing a girl will do is say "no" ... so come on guys, man up and **** those *****es.

Wanna say that this place has helped me out big time over the years. Peace out brothers.

 

[3agle 3yes]

It's a good approach and honesty is key, but you're going to get flaked on a lot of you go this way.

Unless she's really interested in you physically, most women need time to want to see you again, that's why it's important you flirt/screen them first.

 

[zekko]

You see a girl you like? go ****ing talk to her, but be brief and get to the point. Introduce yourself, then ask to meet up with her ... it's THAT easy.

I agree with Threagle Eyes. That sounds okay but don't you need to build some attraction in there somewhere?

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Jesus Christ.

Great post OP. The confidence is the attraction. A woman likes a man who is comfortable in his own skin, if you don't give two fvcks she will notice.

 

[Demonicale]

wow, seems sosuave has changed, some decent replies, thanks guys.

Yeah i was concerned about the flaking, but the way i see it, if you don't really care too much about the outcome then you won't worry or let it get to you so much.

It's a bit like the numbers game. But i have to be honest, i usually do flirt, talk for a few minutes before i ask the girl out. I think the mindset is that you have to say "**** you" to the outcome and what the girl thinks of you.

Appreciate any feedback, you have to fail to succeed in life.

 

[JohnChops]

this is DJB worthy, or atleast a sticky so members here can always read this when they think looks is all it takes.

I was for sure, one of those worthless a$$holes to women for so long, that card doesnt last/work for long. Whats wrong with being humble, nice and confident? Nothing.

 

[Mr Wright]

wow, seems sosuave has changed, some decent replies, thanks guys.

Yeah i was concerned about the flaking, but the way i see it, if you don't really care too much about the outcome then you won't worry or let it get to you so much.

It's a bit like the numbers game. But i have to be honest, i usually do flirt, talk for a few minutes before i ask the girl out. I think the mindset is that you have to say "**** you" to the outcome and what the girl thinks of you.

Appreciate any feedback, you have to fail to succeed in life.

This is what I think ideal game is. You want to maximise everything in your life in terms of your looks, your social circle, your social skills, your money, your ability to escalate, your dress sense and your knowledge. Then you can get away with this sort of stuff because you're so well rounded that women will be attracted to you. It'll still be a numbers game but your hit ratio will be lower. This comes with a huge caveat, it won't work for guys who haven't got their shït together and are resistant to change.

 

[Atom Smasher]

This is another great example of what I call "assumed authority". You need to get to a place internally where your own frame is as solid and real as the very ground you walk on.

How do you get there? Outcome detachment. You detach from the external outcome and embrace the REAL outcome. The REAL outcome is that you acted, regardless of others' reactions. Bank.