I Finally Approached!!! (Newbie Match Report from Last Night)

[Backtothedojo]

My friend and I went out last night. And after 45 minutes of literally being paralyzed by fear, I managed to open a set!! (In the end, I had to bet my friend £5 that I could open the first one before him, and it STILL took us ages to actually do it)

All in all I managed 8 cold approaches. About half that were receptive and chatty. Funny thing, none of the girls were the sort that either myself or my friend would actually want to sleep with, yet we were still terrified.

Another funny thing - and this was the big insight - once I started approaching, I felt terrific. The more I approached (and got blown off), the better I felt. And even though I ended last night alone in my bed masturbating, it felt magnificent.

10 / 100 cold approaches for 2016 done

 

[Lozboss]

It's easy to mock people's perceived failure when you don't have the courage to do it yourself.

Even if I get blown off I don't see that as Failure. It's success of sorts.

Great work OP- You overcame Fear. You won't always go away with a number or a lay but you're doing something that if you continue to do it will improve your confidence.

How liberating is it to finally be free of fear? You feel you can fly. Remember that feeling. Fear is a prison we create in our own minds.