"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I fell in love with F buddy

Bokanovsky

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
You can't make a ho a housewife. What kind of woman engages in causal sexual relationships with multiple me? Is that wife material or slvt material?
When I read things like this, I want to bang my head against the wall. Not because I disagree with you (you are, of course, 100% correct) but because so many other men fail to grasp such a simple concept. It shows how brainwashed modern men have become. 50 years ago, no one in their right mind would have even considered a serious relationship with a woman who fvcked around with multiple men. They had a term for that in the old days: village bicycle. Nowadays, women can act like wh0res with virtually no repercussions.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Wait shes says 'fallen for you' (which is what you wanted) and you are just brushing her off?

Shes blowing up your phone as she wants to know what your thinking. This conversation seems unresolved as your coming across as emotionally distant. I would move the texting convo to a meet up. As per Harrys podcast I am inclined to agree when she brings it up again you should ask what her expectations are and set terms if thats what you are interested in also.
 

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DragonBlood said:
Wait shes says 'fallen for you' (which is what you wanted) and you are just brushing her off?

Shes blowing up your phone as she wants to know what your thinking. This conversation seems unresolved as your coming across as emotionally distant. I would move the texting convo to a meet up. As per Harrys podcast I am inclined to agree when she brings it up again you should ask what her expectations are and set terms if thats what you are interested in also.
I don't know I didn't brush it off I just sort of said that it wasn't a bad thing and I said that's fine. I didn't want to just say 'I've fallen for you also' so I may have appeared emotionally distant by mistake.
So I should text less often and meet up sooner, and next time tell her I feel the same way?
 

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You got the result you were after right? You said you have feelings for her and wanted a relationship. She does too.

The whole "not sure if were ready" is her self doubt. She is fishing for reassurance/validation. Next time she brings it up acknowledge she has a point and tell her not to worry about it, just go with it.

Forget about this dont text her rubbish. Text with her, just dont get into serious discussions via text. Some things are best left for on the phone or in person. Respond to her texts, but not always immediately. Occasionally ask her how she is, what she is doing. Infrequently send her a text along the lines of 'just want you to know I am thinking about you.'

Even though you may like her a lot make an effort to keep detached. My main plate is a real sweetheart, funny, good in bed. But she is more into me than I am into her. That is what you want to achieve.
 
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