I feel very sad, sadness, how to bring back the happy times, happiness

[Stephen89]

I feel sad. There is this sadness.

I've just turned 37 and live in England.

In my early to late teens(Between 2002-2008), I experienced:

-Playing on the playstation with my cousin's
-Playing back garden cricket with my cousin's
-Going to my cousin's house
-Watching international cricket on TV
-Watching day night domestic cricket on TV
-Going to cricket practice on wens, sun
-Cricket matches

-Going to college
-Going to community events
-Reading sports magazines
-Going on forums and reading replies
-Msn messenger

Obviously that were then. I did enjoy school, just the people I miss. They have moved on.

Those were my happy times, I do not know how to be happy.

I went to domestic and one international live cricket matches last year. I haven't been to once this year.

I watch horror and paranormal stories on YouTube every night.

I went to a amusement park the other year and I felt very happy. Moreover I went to a big zoo with my cousin another year, which I felt happy.

I felt happy having a movie night watching a movie with someone the other year. I enjoyed having a movie night with my father and sister the other week ordering a meal.

I stopped playing cricket, watching any form of cricket and stopped going to community events for years.

Back in the day, with so many people, around 25-30 people turning up to cricket practice it used to be fun as well the matches, which brought the community together. A novelty the actual community matches.

Maybe I need something continuous like a movie night with people every Saturday evening.

I enjoy being with groups of people. Perhaps make friends with mature people, go to bingo etc.

I could go to a board game cafe.

Maybe I need to take the pill and join meet ups, clubs, groups and try to make friends.

With everything said, there is sadness, I do not know what to do, or how to be happy,
or how to bring back the happy times. Advice and suggestions appreciated

 

[Gamisch]

Firstly you gotta let go of the idea that your life is over at 37.

That what you described was just a phase in life. Yes, as we age people ten to dissappear. Deal with it. Depend on yourself for your happiness.

Create new memories that will last decades. Get out of this defeatist mindset. Find a therapist and spar with them.

You should definitely go out and meet people. Meanwhile find a mission, something that's larger than life and larger than you. That will keep your mind occupied!

 

[Stephen89]

Firstly you gotta let go of the idea that your life is over at 37.

That what you described was just a phase in life. Yes, as we age people ten to dissappear. Deal with it. Depend on yourself for your happiness.

Create new memories that will last decades. Get out of this defeatist mindset. Find a therapist and spar with them.

You should definitely go out and meet people. Meanwhile find a mission, something that's larger than life and larger than you. That will keep your mind occupied!

Thank you for your suggestions!

 

[Travel memoir21]

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[Stephen89]

I remember back in the day:

Where I used to watch international cricket on TV as well as domestic cricket.

Moreover I read cricket scorecards from the 90s and 80s from the internet and listen to music romanticising things.

Some of the best days of my life are going to a big amusement park with school friends, going to the zoo with my cousin.

Community cricket matches with the community which was a novelty.

I take all the advice and suggestions on board.

 

[jhonny9546]

You need to learn have to have unselfish goals and give back to your community. Go out there and make people's day and try to make a difference in society.

This is why having a job/activity/business that "helps" others in some way it will make our life feel better

 

[Stephen89]

I've joined a few Facebook groups which allows me to help others on a daily basis.

I've joined other cricket forums, just reading the discussions makes me happy to those threads.

Of course, England has a whole domestic county and international cricket infrastructure, I can make friends.

I try to be more around others.

At 37, this is timeless to transition to the next phase of my life.

 

[Clockwerk50]

You need goals and a routine instead of chasing nostalgia. Judging by your post, it doesn't sound like you're exercising or going to the gym either, and that alone can make a huge difference to your mood and help you feel more confident and attractive.

 

[corrector]

I hear you. Nostalgia can hit hard when you remember a time where life felt more open and simple.

Before my parents declined, there were some nice things in the past too. My dad had a tree service business and sometimes we would travel together as a family. I’d sit in the back of the car watching something on my tablet while he drove. Both parents were mobile then, and time felt more expansive. I could go to the movies with my cousin, watch films at home, and not feel like everything around me might collapse if I stepped away too long.

Today is different. Both my parents need care now, money is tight, and life is much more restricted. So I understand that sadness of looking back at a time that felt lighter.

But I think the answer is not to bring back the exact old life. It’s to find a new version of those same ingredients: community, routine, shared activities, and something to look forward to. For you, cricket forums, live matches, board game cafes, movie nights, or community events might be the modern version of what those old cricket days used to give you.

The past can’t be rebuilt exactly, but the pattern can be rebuilt in a new form.