"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I feel sexually deprived/repressed,and it is affecting me in many ways....

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Maxtro said:
I The fact that I'm almost 30 and have never had a girlfriend and the only reason I'm not a virgin is because I've been with hookers, scares me shitless.
You said you meet some people off AFF and had some arrangement where money was not exchanged. Whatever that was, it was not a hooker arrangement.

So, are you strong or powerful enough to overcome a woman by physical force? I think women like guys who are muscular enough to over-power them, rather than guys that they can beat up so they know you can protect them. I'm hoping to build some muscles myself too.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Anyway, I may the only one suggesting this, but has anyone on here thought of the Tyler Durden bootcamp called "Real Social Dynamics". I've read his sales-pitch and he talks about this right on -- like it's all a skill that anyone can learn -- and best of all, you get your full money back if nothing works out for you so there is nothing to lose.

He said one thing that sold me to his boot-camp, if I were serious about this stuff. His pitch said that we are negativly conditioned that interaction with women is a miserable process and this has to be unlearned -- and that's how he pitches this product. I'm thinking guys on here need hardcore training from professional bootcamps - because no e-books or bibles are going to cut it as they are too weak, and drastic changes require a drastic investment. I'd go for that bootcamp rather than whine and complain about a lack of success with women.

So, if I were serious about success with women, and felt like the OP and Maxtro, the first thing I would do is shore up some money or use your credit card and go to that Tyler Durden "Real Social Dynamics" bootcamp because I'd rather give it a try than be miserable with unused credit on my cards or money in the bank.

Now, if you can't afford to pay for this (with it's money-back guarantee), then you would probably have to find a friend or family member who is good with women, and see if anything rubs off on you by staying in their company.
 

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don't look at other people's lives and wish you lived like them. respect your life. be happy for the gift of a healthy body.

You should figure out what you want in your life. I have my own dreams, and I wanna have good sexual relationships, but there are other goals as well.

I aim for being the best man I can become, have amazing quality girls in my life, and have good set of friends and respect my family no matter what.

You need to figure out what you truly want to get to that ultimate happiness level. And work everyday to get there. Castles are not built in the air you know. No one can help you if you don't help yourself.

Gym, DJ resources, clothes, education, job = balanced health wealth and relationships = good life. You need to EARN a life like that bro. Start today.
 
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I feel like I know what I want in life,but no plan to get it. I feel like I am going along without a gameplan,and am very jealous/angry/bitter towards those who do,who have more than me,who are higher up socially,who have someone in there lives,who are part of something,etc. I feel I am not. I feel I am this empty loner,who's anger at things continuously grows.

I don't know how to help myself. That's my problem. I am in this hole I can't get out of. It's all emotional. Other as well,but mostly emotional. I mean,this has been going on forever it feels like. I mean,idk what it is. It feels like it't this thing I can't get that everyone else has. The power,the girls,the money,arrrgggghh,it's so frustrating. I am talking about stuff like this:
http://lasvegas.craigslist.org/cas/876698396.html

I mean,this whole "don juan" thing. What is it exactly? Lifestyle? Sexual? I mean what? What is it I am missing here? What is this side of myself I am lacking? Or is it the world and all it's superficiality and corruption?

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Plus,I wonder,do I have a limited view on sex/sexuality? Perhaps it comes from looking at too much porn,which I am struggling with cutting down on,but it always seemed to me to be about just ****ing and pleasure and all that,or is it a more sensual/emotional thing? Like is there just some part of me I am not in tune with?
 
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I have a friend who watches more porn than the guys who make these things.
He is completely fvcked up. But he respects his family and friends. He spends a lot of time on his career path. He channels his negative energy into something productive.

Life can be cruel bro. It doesn't matter if you dont have sex. It doesn't matter if you are a compelte AFC. Keep a smile on your face no matter what. Work passionately, respect yourself, make friends, just take a deep breath and try to live man.

The world is what you think it is. If you change your thinking, you can change your world.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Luke Skywalker said:
Anyway, I may the only one suggesting this, but has anyone on here thought of the Tyler Durden bootcamp called "Real Social Dynamics". I've read his sales-pitch and he talks about this right on -- like it's all a skill that anyone can learn -- and best of all, you get your full money back if nothing works out for you so there is nothing to lose.
Yadda. Yadda.

Hey.
I just thought you should know, I figured out how to use the ignore function.

Now, if you can't afford to pay for this (with it's money-back guarantee), then you would probably have to find a friend or family member who is good with women, and see if anything rubs off on you by staying in their company.
You're on to something here. Continue this train of thought.
 

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tsmith2334 said:
how much is too much?
he collects porn videos like an obsession. watching porn is his favorite activity.

lol I know another guy who once jacked off 10 times in a day. I think that might be a world record.
 

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daygameguy said:
he collects porn videos like an obsession. watching porn is his favorite activity.

lol I know another guy who once jacked off 10 times in a day. I think that might be a world record.
It's called "Porn Creep" basically they've gotten to the point where its hardwired to watching it instead of having it (although they rationalize it by saying a hand is like a vagina) They can't get off unless there's porn involved. Hell even CSI miami had an episode based on teh concept.

I mean,this whole "don juan" thing. What is it exactly? Lifestyle? Sexual? I mean what? What is it I am missing here? What is this side of myself I am lacking? Or is it the world and all it's superficiality and corruption?

Plus,I wonder,do I have a limited view on sex/sexuality? Perhaps it comes from looking at too much porn,which I am struggling with cutting down on,but it always seemed to me to be about just ****ing and pleasure and all that,or is it a more sensual/emotional thing? Like is there just some part of me I am not in tune with?
Tp answer the first part of this, It's whatever you feel you want. If you want to become better sexually, you are a Sexual Don Juan.

Personally, i want it all, the lifestyle, the sex, and the deeper connection with the world around me.

for the second part. emotion and sensuallity CAN come into play, but it's not exactly mandatory.

I mean, a ONS doesn't have much emotion compared to a LTR.

example, my last LTR loved having that soft, sensual, 2 hour long cuddle/**** fest on the bed, but just the other month, a girl i hooked up with demanded i drill her into the lower decks of the boat we were on, none of that fluffy stuff, just raw, intense animal sex. (the fishing wasn't bad either)

i love both, but i can see how people can feel inclination towards one or the other. I suggest you experience both before making your decision.
 
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yeah,having someone with you,that's what I miss.

"It's called "Porn Creep" basically they've gotten to the point where its hardwired to watching it instead of having it " Yeah.Sounds like me,and it has me worried. How do I overcome it? Just stop looking at porn completeley?

"If you want to become better sexually, you are a Sexual Don Juan." That's really the part I feel is missing and has me worried.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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