I feel like when i talk i ruin everything

[gimmeyofonenumba]

Here is the pattern ive noticed with the girls im interested in, keep in mind theese all occur at school or at the mall where i work:

1. Girl smiles at me or gives really strong ec
2. I take the oppurunity and talk to her(this step is always really good, some small talk and a lil C&F)
3. Here is where i mess up, either i come on too strong, conversation isnt that interesting, etc. ( at this step the girl seems really interested but not really opening up, almost like playing hard to get)

The last chick i was trying to get with at work, I was 110% she liked me, she light up really happy to see me, etc. Yet when i asked for a phone number she says something like "im not that easy".

I even asked one of my classmates to meet me at the library, the girl was so happy/blushing/cheery not a SINGLE DOUBT IN MY MIND. I go to the library that day...nothing.

Sometimes i wish i could just find out if we're interested, then just pick her up stick her in my car and go get something to eat, I doubt they would even mind.

- I think sometimes i can be really intimidating/confident/forward instead of shy/nervous when asking a girl out, and its a turn off maybe?

 

[superchristx]

Just keep at it. Your game might need some small adjustments but this is not the time for your confidence to crash. Remember that every time you miss, you learn from what happened even unconciously and get closer to your goal.

I think you need to work on trust

 

[loner4shou]

4 shou man. just like superchristx said, keep it up and you'll eventually improve and when u do that's where u get all the chick so keep it up.

 

[gimmeyofonenumba]

Originally posted by superchristx
Just keep at it. Your game might need some small adjustments but this is not the time for your confidence to crash. Remember that every time you miss, you learn from what happened even unconciously and get closer to your goal.

I think you need to work on trust

Thanks dude, but whatcha mean i need to work on trust?

 

[Bible_Belt]

I think sometimes i can be really intimidating/confident/forward instead of shy/nervous when asking a girl out, and its a turn off maybe?

Is the whole thing fun? Are you smiling? Is she laughing? Have you built enough repoire? Keep it fun, and it will be easier to keep at it.

 

[gimmeyofonenumba]

Originally posted by Bible_Belt
I think sometimes i can be really intimidating/confident/forward instead of shy/nervous when asking a girl out, and its a turn off maybe?

Is the whole thing fun? Are you smiling? Is she laughing? Have you built enough repoire? Keep it fun, and it will be easier to keep at it.

Ya, i think your right. The recent chick was always gleaming like the sun, with an authentic smile everytime i saw her, but im just now realizing the rapport wasnt great, if much at all. I think i suck at building rapport. How am i to do it? i think its corny to be like "hey well whadya do for fun"..."ya me too, I love doing this and that, just like you!" isnt that a lil suckerish?

 

[DJ4Real]

Don't be basic in your chat.....bust on her a little bit (****y and funny).....use your surroundings as aids to keep conversation going for maybe 7 minutes.....get the email......if she resists....say something sarcastic and funny like, "Yeah, I really want to stalk you and call you everyday....... ....don't bluff yourself....write it down *give her pen and paper*".....

Don't try to out do yourself.

Good Luck