everyday.its like,its always there.something is missing and i feel like im not the person i want to be.this is a problem i have had for sometime.it probably stems alot from this depression i have been feeling for a very long time.theres just no escape from it,and i havent done much to change it around.it feels like a depression/loneliness.like there is something missing.it may just be a need to adapt more positive thinking.i mean,alot of the time,if not working,im at home.on the computer,watching tv/movies,have cut down alot on drinking though,so i guess thats good.but it does feel like there have been these mental blocks holding me back.im not or havent always been the most sociable person i want to be.what that stems from,i dont know.social anxiety,negative past experiences,or just an overall laziness.i mean,another year has gone bye now,and i havent done anything to change things for myself.just on the same stagnant track.no improved social life,no approaches,girls,lays,relationships,etc.yeah.this has been a constant pattern for me.i have no sense of,well,game.this may also stem from what may be a lack of sexuality.i have only slept with two girls so far.so i dont know what it is,fear,anxiety,or unwillingness to take charge or lack of confidence.i mean,i want to change,but i feel like i cant.again,mental blocakge.what can i do to change things for the better?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
i feel like something is wrong....
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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Hi, how are you? I've noticed this is your first post on this site and you've put quite a few threads since and I'm monitoring your success as it pertains to approaching and starting conversations with girls.
I know, people have suggested on here that talking to people in general may be helpful, finding a passion, or just building a social life.
I identify with some of your posts. That feeling where you feel out of place and cant seem to approach anyone, yet you know that you want to. That laziness you get when you are discouraged and cant seem to do anything coupled with negative thoughts. I know this seems to be the common style of most of what you are saying.
This sort of bothers me too at times, and if you are able to beat this problem in your life it would be a great inspiration for me. I'm looking for rag-to-riches success stories on here.
I'm hoping to see improvement in your situation. Keep us up to date.
I know, people have suggested on here that talking to people in general may be helpful, finding a passion, or just building a social life.
I identify with some of your posts. That feeling where you feel out of place and cant seem to approach anyone, yet you know that you want to. That laziness you get when you are discouraged and cant seem to do anything coupled with negative thoughts. I know this seems to be the common style of most of what you are saying.
This sort of bothers me too at times, and if you are able to beat this problem in your life it would be a great inspiration for me. I'm looking for rag-to-riches success stories on here.
I'm hoping to see improvement in your situation. Keep us up to date.
You're not the person you want to be? Do you even know who that person is that you want to be? You don't know who you are or who you want to be. You have to find out who you are and aspire to be before you can even begin. Stop posting negative posts about yourself.
Post positives about yourself and watch yourself grow.
Goodnight!
Post positives about yourself and watch yourself grow.
Goodnight!
MooseGod
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It may sound crazy, but you already are the person you want to be. It's inside of you, begging to be let out. Just DO it! Tune out the negative voices that are cluttering up your thoughts and just do your best to stay on track with your goals.
Honestly, exercise helps. Finding a true passion in life helps. But most of all, you've got to remember that being happy is a choice. You can't keep telling yourself "I'm going to be happy when...."
You have to be happy now. Right this minute. The present moment is all you have. The past and future are simply a mental construct. The sooner you realize that, the better. It's kinda like working out--sure, you can get discouraged and think "Man, I'm out of shape and it's going to take so long for me to even see results." If you take life one day at a time and just make working out part of your routine, then before you know it you're going to be in great shape. It may take months, but those months are going to go by regardless.
Honestly, exercise helps. Finding a true passion in life helps. But most of all, you've got to remember that being happy is a choice. You can't keep telling yourself "I'm going to be happy when...."
You have to be happy now. Right this minute. The present moment is all you have. The past and future are simply a mental construct. The sooner you realize that, the better. It's kinda like working out--sure, you can get discouraged and think "Man, I'm out of shape and it's going to take so long for me to even see results." If you take life one day at a time and just make working out part of your routine, then before you know it you're going to be in great shape. It may take months, but those months are going to go by regardless.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
MooseGod
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It may sound crazy, but you already are the person you want to be. It's inside of you, begging to be let out. Just DO it! Tune out the negative voices that are cluttering up your thoughts and just do your best to stay on track with your goals.
Honestly, exercise helps. Finding a true passion in life helps. But most of all, you've got to remember that being happy is a choice. You can't keep telling yourself "I'm going to be happy when...."
You have to be happy now. Right this minute. The present moment is all you have. The past and future are simply a mental construct. The sooner you realize that, the better. It's kinda like working out--sure, you can get discouraged and think "Man, I'm out of shape and it's going to take so long for me to even see results." If you take life one day at a time and just make working out part of your routine, then before you know it you're going to be in great shape. It may take months, but those months are going to go by regardless.
Honestly, exercise helps. Finding a true passion in life helps. But most of all, you've got to remember that being happy is a choice. You can't keep telling yourself "I'm going to be happy when...."
You have to be happy now. Right this minute. The present moment is all you have. The past and future are simply a mental construct. The sooner you realize that, the better. It's kinda like working out--sure, you can get discouraged and think "Man, I'm out of shape and it's going to take so long for me to even see results." If you take life one day at a time and just make working out part of your routine, then before you know it you're going to be in great shape. It may take months, but those months are going to go by regardless.