"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I feel like my parents think I’m gonna be alone my whole life

superstorm250

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So tonight I went jogging with my friend and before I left, my dad was saying that I should go down to the beach and get a girl and a couple other things that about me getting a girl. The reason why he was saying all this is because my friend is bi (but he goes for guys more) and my cousin on his side of the family is gay and he’s worried that my friend’s sexuality is gonna rub off on me and that I’m gonna end up like my cousin. Which would never happen because I’m straight and have never felt attracted to guys.

But he didn’t tell me this, apparently my mom didn’t like that he was saying all that to me and said something to him after I left, which is how I found all that out. Then my mom said she told him that like 40% percentage of millennials never get married and don’t find a significant other so that he needs to not worry about it. The other day, she was also telling me about a family friend who’s middle aged and never had a girlfriend and that he’s happy with his life, and I didn’t even bring up my dating life to her. I don’t bring it up to anyone, but I’m 24 and never had a girlfriend and never dated either. What I described above really makes me feel like my parents think I’m gonna be alone my whole life.
 

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superstorm250

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And? Who give a flying ****. Your parents are just like anyone else. Their opinion shouldn't weigh more than another person's just because they are your parents.
Yeah I know, I just don’t want this trend to continue on where everyone just assumes I’m just gonna be alone my whole life.
 

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So tonight I went jogging with my friend and before I left, my dad was saying that I should go down to the beach and get a girl and a couple other things that about me getting a girl. The reason why he was saying all this is because my friend is bi (but he goes for guys more) and my cousin on his side of the family is gay and he’s worried that my friend’s sexuality is gonna rub off on me and that I’m gonna end up like my cousin. Which would never happen because I’m straight and have never felt attracted to guys.

But he didn’t tell me this, apparently my mom didn’t like that he was saying all that to me and said something to him after I left, which is how I found all that out. Then my mom said she told him that like 40% percentage of millennials never get married and don’t find a significant other so that he needs to not worry about it. The other day, she was also telling me about a family friend who’s middle aged and never had a girlfriend and that he’s happy with his life, and I didn’t even bring up my dating life to her. I don’t bring it up to anyone, but I’m 24 and never had a girlfriend and never dated either. What I described above really makes me feel like my parents think I’m gonna be alone my whole life.
I hear things like that everyday, in a longer period it will just create toxic environment. next their opinions
 

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Your life belongs to you.

To let others tell you how to live is kind of absurd. Even if they are your parents.

I don't go out of my way to make my parents happy or unhappy. I just live my life and they can feel however they want about my choices. They are my choices to make, not theirs.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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