Well yeah, that why I don't get either. I mean it's one thing to not agree with somebody, but to just pop in thread and just throw venom to get a reaction. Isn't that the definition of trolling...
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I feel like I'm going crazy
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Things went over the top for no reason.
Perhaps you needs some vacation, or just focus on things you can control.
As per the fear of rejection, you have to embrace it. See you approach as you looking for a job. You sent some applications (talk to a few girls), you might get a call back requesting for a interview (exchange of phones number) then the actually interviews (date).
You present your best self and see if it can lead to get the job (sex, relationship)
Now, it would be a bit silly for you to stop looking for a job that you need because you did nail the first interview and now your fear that going on a second interview would produce the same result.
Also it would be silly to go to 6 interview in a day for a week, if you are mad and believe that you are just going through the motion.
So my advice to you is to slow down and realize that it should be fun to talk to women. Most importantly, the fact that you can or cannot have a girl in your life is not an indication of your character. It's doesn't make you a good or bad person.
But if you believe that you are not ``complete`` because you are not with a girl, you will mostly always feel this way, it will be a self-fulfilling prophecy and stay in a continuous cycle.
Break the cycle, live for you and be great, once you start having fun for yourself, the rest will fall into place.
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