"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I feel like I lost It...

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CORVETTE06

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I just turned 21, so I am now able to go to 21 clubs/bars

Yesterday I went to a 21 bar/club by my college and I feel like I lost my balls and cant get girls in the club anymore.

Some random/drunk girl came up and start dancing with me (really slutty)... I talked to her for like a minute then I asked her what her name was... she asked me what mine was and as soon as I told her my name, she STOPPED and danced with my friend. Why the hell she do that? She danced with him for like 2 minutes and then abruptly left him too, but she kissed him before she left.

Maybe I should have just danced and not talked?

Maybe I was touching her too much? What should I do with my hands when I dance with her?

ANyway, that really threw me off for the rest of the night and I didnt get with any girls.

I think I lost it...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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moto

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dont think to highly of that girl. Its just one female, you should have danced with some others. Don't let rejection get to you keep having fun man.
 
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Phyzzle

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GUNWICH METHOD!!! Look it up now.

Maybe I should have just danced and not talked?
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For a while anyhow. You are in danger of being a boring ear yeller!!!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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You're making this too complicated. It sounds like this skank was either on something, or just an attention *****. Either way, that's not the type you wanna go for. At this point at least. In my opinion, the best place is a church or daycare center. You're bound to find some high quality, non slutty b!tches there. Also the special olympics. Going to these places shows the girl that you're a kind, sweet man that she'll know is a keeper when she's riding on top of you screaming in your name.
 
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you've think you lost it cause one night at a club/bar w/ a drunk slut didn't go right? I bet she didn't even want a conv. just wanted to be an attention horr and just get drunk and dance that whole night...
 
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