I've been talking to this girl for like 3 weeks and we went to the beach this week. She was in bed like resting, so I got in behind her in a sexual way. We pretty much slept with each other cuddled and in a sexual position. I kissed her neck a little, but that was it. I didn't think she would put out because she's a virgin and she was tired. I feel like I don't have any balls right now.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I feel like an utter failure right now
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Mr Wright
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Mate, you made a mistake, its in the past, the more you let it linger in your mind, the more it will have an impact in the future.
Embrace the mistake, learn from it and dont do it again. Next time do something about it.
Embrace the mistake, learn from it and dont do it again. Next time do something about it.
Who Dares Win
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I dont see any epic fail in here, most of us did much more worse.
Just try to do better next time.
Just try to do better next time.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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When i'm in bed with a girl I just rub my boner on her... All the same things you were doing, just with a boner. You should try it sometime... she can't ignore it forever... I'll just start out hugging and cuddling, let her feel the heat, then go for a boob and it's all over.
SgtSplacker
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While not coming across like a total horn dog. You just have to do the minimum to make sure she can feel it. Sometimes i'll just give a "accidental" poke with a muffled oops to get the point across. Maybe adjust it a little.. lay it on her thigh (if you're spooning), you know, to get it out of the way and give yourself room for the spooning? After all she's beautiful and you can't help feeling that way. It's like playing a game of ignore the massive erection in bed between us that you have to play very poorly...
If this girl is even remotely interested in sexing you, you will have one down pat.
If this girl is even remotely interested in sexing you, you will have one down pat.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I have to say I don't understand you Americans. It's like this thing you do when you dance. What's it called again? Grinding? I just don't get how pressing your penis into a girl is ever going to help your chances. You do stuff like that, yet you're scared to just try and kiss the girl? Come on. How does that work?
blind_one
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Don't be so hard on youself JPlaya, I know how you feel but don't let it break you, instead try and learn from this, and any other experience, when I look back at all the AFCtotheMAX things I did looking back at last autumn I shouldn't be able to look myself in the mirror but instead I take it as if:
"Well certainly I've performed badly but hey I'm a stronger person now so that won't happen"
"Well certainly I've performed badly but hey I'm a stronger person now so that won't happen"
SgtSplacker
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Having an erection on a dance floor with a stranger is very different from having one in bed with a girl you are just getting intimate with. I have experienced situations where a girl will kind of curl up in fetal to nap after some partying, not really in a sexual mood at all then you start this creepish shoulder kissing hoping she turns around and addresses you and all you get is snoring. I have always had better results being a little more aggressive and honest with the situation. Anyways girls like SPINE TINGLING SEX not a romantic soft kissing session that ended in a gentle caring lay. I'll save the slow kissing for her when she's horny. I'll make sure she's awake, let her feel the heat of my stiff cawk on her lower back. If I don't get a reaction, i'll calm down and go to sleep then. Don't be a wimp having a boner is not rape. Men get boners, women know men have no control over our erections. A girl in your bed should only feel flattered and maybe a little horny. If this is not what is happening then your going down a dead end... and a dead lay too. lol! One thing for sure is that she knows exactly what is going on with the boner method, shoulder kissing is... well... kissing her shoulder.AlexDP said:
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You don't need to discuss it with her at all. I would just assume that she "forgot" something so she could get to see you again. It happens all the time, girls forget or leave things as an excuse. That means she is into you. Who cares if you didn't f*ck her straight away, it's not that big of a deal. It probably made her think about f*cking you after. girls are like that, you planted the seed of...em planting your seed and she marinates on that and after a while she probably wants to seal the deal. You just have to chill out, have some wine with her, start kissing her and move things to sex. YOU DO NOT AT ALL HAVE TO ADDRESS THE OTHER NIGHT! She may even be thinking about how much of a tease / challenge you were for getting her all turned on and then stopping, and she wants revenge sex!!!! If you bring it up, she'll switch to "Wait a minute, you mean you were SCARED??? oh god I'M THE ONE WHO IS SUPPOSED TO BE UNSURE, NOT YOU..what a turn off!!!" - Why even open up the possibility of that happening at all?
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I've heard worse. I've done worse.
Just let it go. forgetting about this and moving on with your life is the best thing that is for you.
You live and you learn. Don't stress over this. So ordered.
Case closed. Treat yourself to a movie or a basketball game.
Just let it go. forgetting about this and moving on with your life is the best thing that is for you.
You live and you learn. Don't stress over this. So ordered.
Case closed. Treat yourself to a movie or a basketball game.
PrettyBoyAJ
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Just remember that your a young guy and that you must learn from your experiences. Keep this in your head and you will be golden.
A couple months ago I messed up with a dime piece broad because I talked to "smart" with her and it seemed from the outside that I was just flashing my intelligence. This girl was 28 years old, was in the army, had money and was one of the baddest broads I have seen. I know I messed up but I learned from it.
Last week I had this video vixen in my crib. She was so freaking thick and fine! Props to my homeboy for putting me on but she stopped messing with me because my apartment was dirty (the outside area like the kitchen... even though my room is spotless). After I heard this I just charged it to the game. I cleaned up all my roommates mess and even bought a new trash can. I charged it to the game and now I know not to room with dirty slobs.
It is all a learning experience. It is a game man, just have fun with it.
A couple months ago I messed up with a dime piece broad because I talked to "smart" with her and it seemed from the outside that I was just flashing my intelligence. This girl was 28 years old, was in the army, had money and was one of the baddest broads I have seen. I know I messed up but I learned from it.
Last week I had this video vixen in my crib. She was so freaking thick and fine! Props to my homeboy for putting me on but she stopped messing with me because my apartment was dirty (the outside area like the kitchen... even though my room is spotless). After I heard this I just charged it to the game. I cleaned up all my roommates mess and even bought a new trash can. I charged it to the game and now I know not to room with dirty slobs.
It is all a learning experience. It is a game man, just have fun with it.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.