I feel like a part of my emotions die everytime some girl throw sh1t on me

[Who Dares Win]

It's not a rant, not bitter or pissed off but simply acknowledging an existing fact with total sincerity and no ego preserving or such.

I wish I would be unaffected as many of you guys preach here but the more sh1t happens to me, the less I feel myself able to open or trust a woman or even establish an emotion bond, its not by choice just imagine a hor piece of iron which is getting colder and colder thus less easy to shape.

I saw them all, from the classic girls telling that they are not looking for a boyfriend then going togheter with some stud while I was in highschool to girls which I cold approached and got to date only to have them going after some other guy in the club few hours later....countless girls who plays hot and cold.

Even girls that come out with me with the sole purpose of friendship despite my clear intentions and then act offended when said that I want no friendship with them.

What bothers me in the last case is not that the girl doesnt consider me attractive enough to be wet, but that she considers me so low that she thinks I would accept such humiliating deal..

Right now I saw them all, I have no approach anxiety nor jeaousy nor expecatation, I take girls my place and just work my way going for the kill but considering the miss with the only exception that Im so paranoid(?) that I consider any relationship no different than a car rental instead of a car purchase.

Actually of all the guys I know Im among the most succesfull with women, the less shy and the less intimidated from them yet sometime I stop and wonder whats going on.

Not sure if I made myself clear, just wondering if someone can relate?
Sometime I think that I should pay more attention to the women I get close to me than potential burglars on the streets.

 

[Down Low]

Nah, don't worry about your emotions dying. Women find endless ways to shock your nerves, commit emotional battery, and make you feel depressed, humiliated, and physically drained. Then they find ways to get at your money, to get police at your door, and so on. It's all so stupid and pointless, but women are stupid and pointless. Just fvck 'em . . . and you'll be fine.

 

[backbreaker]

Bro I've been there. And not just with women in life, with parents saying they love you only only to dissociate from you when you don't do what they think you should be doing, from friends who say they they are your best friends but don't come around when you don't have **** to offer, to women who claim how great you are and how they like you for you but get pissy when you don't want to drop money on them.

You have, one problem. This one solution will drastically change every facet of your life.

Your problem, what literally changed my life, is i stopped becoming outcome dependent and started becoming process dependent.

In other words, acknowledge that you have zero control over other people, their thoughts, their ambitions, their thought process, their rationale. The only thing that you can control and thus the only thing your happiness/self esteem should be tied to is your effort/process. meaning, if i am in a club, the only thing that i care about is that i made the effort to talk to every girl i thought was hot and didn't shy away from any situation beucase i *****ed out. that, i can 10000% control. i can't control what any of them will say, act, do, think, feel. there are times i've gone out and approved what seemed like half the club and couldn't get a nibble, there are times where i wasn't approaching anyone and had to decide who i was going to take home. the key is to not get down on yourself beucase girls aren't feeling you and also, don't get big headed beucase girls are. The only thing that matters to me is that i put forth the effort that i honestly desired to put forth. that's all i can control today and thus that is all that i tie my self esteem to.

I take this approach with everything. I don't care how many jobs i sale in a month i only care how many prospective clients that I think fit my criteria that I find and put my best foot forward with. Now in general I know if i do my job right i have an idea of what I should make, but if i do what i was supposed to do, i don't beat myself up over the head about X client not doing this or that, i can't control that. With horse racing my profits shot through the roof once i stopped making myself make x amount of bets a week.

This is what you do, ask yourself the man i envision myself being, what would he do today. what would he do in this situation. hold yourself to that standard. that's all you can do. the results will come. i promise you they will come

but there is no reason for a guy who has zero approach anxiety to have such a bad attitude / outlook about women. **** the hard part is over lol

I wish I would be unaffected as many of you guys preach here but the more sh1t happens to me, the less I feel myself able to open or trust a woman or even establish an emotion bond, its not by choice just imagine a hor piece of iron which is getting colder and colder thus less easy to shape.

lol you just don't have the ability to see the blooper reels. i could rite a 5 page post by myself of stupid ass **** i have seen, had to go through in my dealing with stupid ignorant flaky ass women. poking holes in condoms? check. lying about being married? check. getting rejected for the most god awful reasons ever? check. girls thinking i'm gay? check. girls trying to use me for an orbiter? check. lol i had a ****ing girl break up with me, a 6 month relationship at that, because she blamed her Diabetic outbreak on me not going to thanksgiving with her. you can't make the **** up lol. this was her honest to god hand on the bible reason for leaving me. it wasn't some BS excuse to date another guy, it wasn't so low interest, she blamed me for her dietetic outbreak lol. I've had 3 girls tell me that i am not thuggish enough for them. can't count how many girls who ran the other way once they found out i didn't' go to church. I've had girls lose interest i me beucase i never went to college, and i' ****ing rich lol. at least relatively speaking

the only thing is, i understand that everyone is where they are. i don't put any credence into the results. eventually i found a non bat **** crazy woman who got me and i got her and i put a ring on her finger but, that makes me no more or no less a DJ IMHO what makes a DJ and what a DJ shoudl put his esteem into is the process not the results. you can't put your self stock into these crazy ass women's minds and motives lol. you are asking to be a miserable prick

Do you know some of the stupid ass reasons my wife's friends next guys? i hear this **** on a weekly basis. one thing i have learned is that a woman, a least a lot of the time, will never tell you the real reason you were nexted, and a lot of the times, the reason is much sillier than you think. oen of her friends nexted a pretty cool dude beucase he said he hated reality TV shows.. my wife and her friends are huge deadliest catch fans.. i like the show but i mean i'm not going to go out of my way to watch it.. she said obviously they weren't comptable long term next lol. of course she never told him that, i think on a subconscious level she knows she's an idiot. but you know.. i would be lying if i said shew as a bad girl she isn't. she's not MY type but i mean she's cute, and if she does find a man who fits her long term outlook i'm sure she will make a decent GF. just understand, these peoplpe and you aren't compatable and leave it at that. dont' get so angry about it. just move on.

 

[risenwayne]

It's not a rant, not bitter or pissed off but simply acknowledging an existing fact with total sincerity and no ego preserving or such.

Hi, Who Dares Win. I'll call you WDW.

I have been hurt by more than one woman, and I think I understand how you feel. Honestly, you seem frustrated and confused. I don't even necessarily have any advice for you, besides saying this: Ultimately, your mind and your emotions are under your control. You have a choice.

You're the captain of your ship, sir. As long as you're holding yourself up, no one and nothing can bring you down.

 

[risenwayne]

Nah, don't worry about your emotions dying. Women find endless ways to shock your nerves, commit emotional battery, and make you feel depressed, humiliated, and physically drained. Then they find ways to get at your money, to get police at your door, and so on. It's all so stupid and pointless, but women are stupid and pointless. Just fvck 'em . . . and you'll be fine.

Part of me agrees with this, because I have recently experienced this - every painful bit of it. It was hell. However, this was my experience with just one woman. Her behavior does not color my opinions about all women.

 

[DonGorgon]

yes these days there are too many males and to few females in the mating game so competition is getting very very hyper and many males are having to get fatties uglies play or go without.. females are very very hostile to male they don't like due to the high population of males options available to them

I have a friend who get 30 numbers a week and seldom gets a single F.. and he is a regular looking dude with a nice care and good game

so many males are getting depressed getting sad turning to prostitutes or turing gay or asexual... its very sad but no one cares... you just have to find away to get some..

 

[badboyjmm]

Well my man, I think we all get to a point where we let stupid stuff mess around with our heads. Girls will always play games and trying to get the most out of you without any investment when they can.

The only thing you can do, is not take it seriously. When you feel like you care too much, STOP. Call a friend, do some hobbies. Then you can move on to the next one.

I was pretty pissed off the other day because I was talking to a girl about us getting together since we get along. We started talking on the phone, then she said she will call me back. She never did (it's been a 5 days). I just went out clubbing and realize how easy it was to attract girls and talk to them.

Remember you have to pass through a lot of hot and cold girls to find the few ones worth your time

 

[SgtSplacker]

You have to do things in such a way that you amuse yourself. Have fun with it, but do it so even if she says no you're still having fun. You have to find your own path and do things your way. But this is what I do. The most important thing is having a good attitude. And remember, a girl is not going to say yes to every single good looking guy. If you don't jive you just don't jive, it's not because of your stupid face...