Heh, it seems like recently I've been caring way too much about the way people think about me. I have never had this problem before. And of course, it only started once I started hanging out with the "cool" crowd. My friend, sense last year, decided to change his image.. started dressing more (i don't want to say, but the kind of clothes that scream out, bling bling ya know) I always thought he was wasting his time.. I noticed he became more stuck up, and was basically just all of the preps/jocks *****.. I never wanted to be like that. Then idk.. suddenly I kind of fell into it too. I started dressing differently, and saw results fast... people treated me differently. I got attention from girls, and some of the cooler guys. Then I took on the lead full time, and now they're the only people I hang out with. However, today I realized just how shallow I could be. I feel embaressed anytime I see any of my old friends.. especially the ones that "arent cool". I was hanging out with my bros, and this girl that drives me home sometimes asks me if I needed a ride later, only thing is she is fat, and ugly. Then the bros kept giving me a hard time about it, like "Omg, you know that chick?", and then when she walked by me again one of them was like "hey, there goes your gf". I just kind of shrugged it off, but it just fealt embaressing. Like, almsot like I want nothing to do with my old friends.. because they're just embaressing. I feel like I've taken on the roll of being cool, so I have to limit my friends to only cool people. That's why I feel fake. Mainly because the only cool people I know are my friend and his cousin, and it's like, whenever someone else (one of their friends comes) I'm just kinda quiet, not really sure what to say. Idk.. it's hard to explain. It just really irratates me, and it's bugging me. I feel fake, and shallow.. and just bad in general. Like I'm too cool for everyone, then at the same time, I feel like I'm not cool enough for them....... erg advice/tips/sympathy anyone?
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Don Juan
I'm assuming you're in high school, but none of this sh!t matters the SECOND after you get your diploma..
but ya bro if getting chicks and being cool happens at the expense of you keeping it real, you've gotta get your sh!t together..
a true Don Juan will never fake it until he makes it..a true Don Juan will be himself and keep it real with his real bros and anyone he finds cool from any fvcking social class...a true Don Juan will never regard only his emotions and himself full-time...he's compassionate, grounded, and understanding of the effects his selfish actions impose on his friends..
you gotta keep it real, man..i doubt your old real friends were only friends with you because of superficial reasons like your new ones are..they actually looked pass all that bullsh!t exterior sh!t and looked at the guy you are on the inside..
but if you wanna be an asshol3, be my fvcking guest..
but ya bro if getting chicks and being cool happens at the expense of you keeping it real, you've gotta get your sh!t together..
a true Don Juan will never fake it until he makes it..a true Don Juan will be himself and keep it real with his real bros and anyone he finds cool from any fvcking social class...a true Don Juan will never regard only his emotions and himself full-time...he's compassionate, grounded, and understanding of the effects his selfish actions impose on his friends..
you gotta keep it real, man..i doubt your old real friends were only friends with you because of superficial reasons like your new ones are..they actually looked pass all that bullsh!t exterior sh!t and looked at the guy you are on the inside..
but if you wanna be an asshol3, be my fvcking guest..
Hey grimple, i feel your pain, i almost feel into the same trap too. However, i realized that my true friends were the people that hung out with me no matter what clothes i dressed in or what stupid things i said.
You said that your pretty much socially awkward around anyone not "cool". Thats not good, because like troublemaker said, once you get out of high school, your old popularity doesnt mean ****.
Go out and try to befriend everyone now, become less socially awkward, and you will definitely feel less fake.
You said that your pretty much socially awkward around anyone not "cool". Thats not good, because like troublemaker said, once you get out of high school, your old popularity doesnt mean ****.
Go out and try to befriend everyone now, become less socially awkward, and you will definitely feel less fake.