I feel insecure about my guys taking my women

[PeasantPlayer]

Not a big issue that affects me from day to day or keeps me up at night. Just a insecurity I think about....for what reason? **** because I see other women with their boyfriends checking me out and even winking behind their boyfriends back. Even seen some of my dudes girls checking me out (not all of them) But I see them checking out other guys when we go out, its something I don't know how to deal with, how do I deal with it? I know women and men will be attracted to other people, but I have no trust in women to date them long term, partly (small part) because of this. Even have this feeling when I meet new women and bring them around my friends, I can tell when they take a liking to one of them, they try so hard you know how it goes.....

 

[Who Dares Win]

Welcome to the club?

Thats why we never invest emotionally, psychologically and economically on any woman untill she proves worth of such investment.

Anyway regarding taken girls checking you out, most of the time they are smitten to their boyfriends yet since the power dinamics changes after a couple have sex, she probably misses the attention that only an unconquered girl creates in a man, once they got their attention they'll drop you as trash and go back to him.

Pretty much the like the married man which fvcks hot young girls then go back to him wife at home.

 

[Glumix]

but I have no trust in women to date them long term

You don't date women on the long term. You date women.

It becomes long term if they respect you on the long term.

Invest whatever you can afford to lose (time, psyche, emotions, money, etc...).
Never take your relationship for granted.

Remember your worth.
Because from you forgetting your worth emerge all fears.

 

[Afrei]

I don't think it should bother you as long as they don't do it in an obvious right in your Face kind of way, which I found that to be very disrespectful..beside there is a big gab between checking out a hot guy and actually funking him...remember they are human too. However with that been said one of the hardest thing that I had to come to terms with is the fact that the possibility that a girl in her 20s stay 100% faithful to you in a LTR(more than 2 years) are slim of course there are alway the exception to the rule but far in between .. I know a couple of guys that their girls will never leave then yet they have cheated on then a couple of times

 

[Julian]

these hoes aint loyal

these bros aint loyal


im not loyal so i dont expect it.

i need to work on that

 

[fastlife]

I think the key is to be genuine to yourself. Accept that you're not a finished product (hopefully); that there are still things you don't know; that there are still mistakes you'll make (whether that's in behavior, words, or just judgement of character). Accept that there are things you can't control--you can't control women, you can't control the society you live in, but you can control your actions, your thoughts and your investment.

As long as you're acting in a way that's genuine and honest to yourself (and there's a lot of social conditioning to undo to even know what that means), then you can walk away at the end of the day knowing that you didn't sacrifice yourself. Losing a girl is never the issue, losing yourself is.

At this point, if I'm having fun in that moment and I'm learning from my experience, then that's time never wasted--even if a girl burns me once or twice. I allow myself to experience those emotions fully; but I don't let them guide my behavior or diminish my sense of self-worth. Enjoy the journey, and the women that choose to accompany you along the way, but the destination is yours alone.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Thanks for the replies. I guess apart of me feeling like this is when I am with a chick and I see something better my mind starts racing and inside I am a complete horndog. Always keeping my options open and I know if I can attain this other woman I will try and sleep with her. Then I project this on to the women I meet or date.

What do they call that Buddhist law again? Impermanence? Nothing last forever don't attach to it

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Not a big issue that affects me from day to day or keeps me up at night. Just a insecurity I think about....for what reason? **** because I see other women with their boyfriends checking me out and even winking behind their boyfriends back. Even seen some of my dudes girls checking me out (not all of them) But I see them checking out other guys when we go out, its something I don't know how to deal with, how do I deal with it? I know women and men will be attracted to other people, but I have no trust in women to date them long term, partly (small part) because of this. Even have this feeling when I meet new women and bring them around my friends, I can tell when they take a liking to one of them, they try so hard you know how it goes.....

At this time in history women are being more "bad" than ever. You still shouldn't let it reflect upon you as an insecurity, but let it reflect upon her as not being able to stay away from excessive attention.

All you can do is to make it consequences if she does cheat on you or ask for attention by doing the same to her or dropping her.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

At this time in history women are being more "bad" than ever. You still shouldn't let it reflect upon you as an insecurity, but let it reflect upon her as not being able to stay away from excessive attention.

All you can do is to make it consequences if she does cheat on you or ask for attention by doing the same to her or dropping her.

I hear ya bro, just today I was with my buddy and today and there was this chick walking with her boyfriend, we overheard him telling her a random story. They walked by us and the chick smiled at my buddy really cheesy behind her boyfriends back and gawked. I was like WOW that was pretty easy he could of probably nailed it if her boyfriend went to use the bathroom lol