I feel hated...

[Rash]

Well to begin with 4 years ago I was a nice guy to everyone, people loved me but also walked on me, I use to help everyone and not look for myself and my own benefits and finally I had enough of this the more I do good to people the more they disrespect me ! so by adaptation I turned to the exact opposit , now I feel little bit hated , if someone ask me for money I say no even to my little sister , I benefit from friends finacially, I manipulate people with weak personalities, I take part of conspiracies at work, I am extra selfish, I cheat on my gf etc... yesterday at work I was listening to a conversation between tow of my coworkers one of them need money :
coworker1: hey u can ask "my name" to borrow you some money.
coworker2: forget about it , this guy wont help you even if he see you dieing.
I thought that I was building an Alpha-male personality but I think I am building a jerk/a$$hole personality , alpha-males are loved and trusted by their friends I am not!! I dont think I can save my reputation now its toooo late!

 

[Ken785]

Why dont you just act nice but here and there...other times just act normal! You dont have to change yourself and be a total d1ck man. Just dont do things for people if you know for damn sure they wont do it for you. Dont be unfair to yourself like that just because you want people to like you.

I know you just wanna be nice to people and do good, but guess what? most people dont give a crap and all they will do is take advantage and use you and disrespect you!, thats just how people are.

This is a "Dog eat Dog" world man...look out for yourself and dont take crap from people who try and disrespect or take advantage of you. Show them that you dont take crap, right away!

Then they will back down because most people are fake tough guy cowards anyway. They wont mess with you or disrespect you again if you are quick to let them know not to try and walk on you cuz trust me they will keep doing it if you dont!! This includes your Family and Friends!.

**When i say family i dont mean your IMMEDIATE family, im talking about your cousins and stuff...you should always love and look out for your IMMEDIATE family (parents,brothers,sisters) no matter what, unconditionally, that was foul of you to deny helping out your little sister bro..

Dont try and qualify yourself to people just cuz you wanna look like a cool guy. Always give yourself higher value than you do others!

 

[SickAgain]

Lots of people that I've known for a while tell me that they thought I was a jerk when the first met me. This is because I have a very blunt and upfront way of speaking. I am the opposite of soft. But when they get to know me they understand I'm a good person, based on my actions and not on my words.

These actions are usually nice things like helping someone out with something small like getting them a drink when they're thirsty or just relating to them if they're in a sh!tty mood.

Generosity, compassion, and empathy can go a long way. But it's only for those who deserve it. The rest of them pretty much get sh!tted on in the worst way possible from me.

 

[The Sperminator]

Don't be an *******. Just don't let people take advantage of you. Theres a difference between being nice and being a doormat. You wouldn't even let your little sister borrow money? Wow thats low. I mean if people need help you should help them out if you can. Just don't let them walk all over you. If they are asking money out of you all the time and not paying you back then yeah you should say no but if like someone didn't have money and needed gas to go home or something like that you should help them out. Helping people out is just being a good human being. I wish more people would do that but they don't.

 

[Serialized3]

http://youtube.com/watch?v=SC4gmIxxYT4

 

[Lord Shinra]

Yeah, dont be a prick. Just be nice when the situation arises, but if you got the shaft, show them the sh!t.

 

[Rash]

its not like I am trying to be like that its just how I transformed this is my personality now, I wish I could be like my boss everybody at work loves him and respect him, he is bold decisive and agressive yet he is a caring helpful person he help all the employees when they are in trouble but if someone do something wrong he know how to punish him thats what I call an alpha male, its not easy to be like that.

 

[DJVladdy]

Are you stupid?
If you are a prick of course people will dislike you... a seven year old understands this.

 

[DJVladdy]

In fact, I hated your post because you remind me of myself 2 years ago. When I turned from a "niceguy" with no standards or boundaries to a mean and defensive a$$ who gave dirty looks to everyone

 

[KontrollerX]

Dude just act nice to people who deserve it.

If your little sister has never taken your help for granted feel free to help her.

Others who do take you for granted cut em off.

If you are a good guy you have to be true to yourself and be that good guy.

Just don't let people walk all over you by cutting them out of your life if they start to take you for granted or don't come to you and apologize for having done so.

As for cheating on your girlfriend has she been bad to you to deserve this?

It just seems like you haven't taken in the full picture before becoming this way.

Don't let anyone tell you and that includes yourself that it is too late to change your life for the better.