I feel guilty...

[ARrocket]

I think I'll get better responses here rather than in the high school forum.

I took a girl to prom a few weeks ago. We had a blast...she had to be home early, and at the end of the night I only kissed her on the cheek. oh well....we were all over each other at prom though, so it's not that bad.

She was obviously interested in me...in the weeks leading up to prom, things were great. She has invested a lot of time in me...she draws, and she started drawing me a HUGE picture (wtf?? lol), she has already picked out my graduation present, she memorized my # in like 2 days (another wtf??). She called me TWICE the day after prom.

The Monday after prom, things were great. However, the next day, her interest suddenly seemed to disappear. I have NO clue what happened...the next day, I invited her to go ice skating with me that Friday (which was last Friday). Just then, her sister comes out of nowhere and says "she's busy on Friday...she's going to the movies with ME." Obviously a lie, but it gave the girl a chance to say "I have to leave" and she walked away. The next day, I said "you never gave me an answer about Friday" and she says "I don't think I can make it" and she looked scared to say it...anyway, I just said "ok" and walked away.

I had NO contact with her for 4 days (I've been a bad boy and skipped school a lot). Yesterday, she seemed to be quite talkative when I saw her in class...but physically cold at first (I used to get TONS of kino from her). I was very aloof with her, and flirted with other girls right in front of her (I had developed oneitis for her, but at this point I didn't care anymore). Finally, she starts poking me and stuff, but I still play it cool, and used a ton of C&F.

Today, she was really quiet around me, and kept muttering to herself...she said she was tired and she "hates this class." She even walked passed me in the hallway without saying hi. I caught up to her, called her out on it, and she gave some excuse.

Obviously, she's pissed at me. I assumed she wasn't interested in me anymore, but maybe she was just playing hard to get. Normally, I wouldn't care, but this girl is a stereotypical "good girl"...complete with 2 parents who are ministers. lol. I KNOW she liked me....or she did the best imitation I've ever seen. I still have some feelings for her, and I have no idea how to proceed.

 

[ARrocket]

ok, I know it's long, but I NEED some help on this...

I'll get things started. I am debating whether I should invite her somewhere, or "put the ball in her court." Something like "so, when are you taking me out to make things up to me?"

 

[Mavrick]

Did you know that if you wouldn't have reacted in any way towards her distancing herself towards you, she more than likely would have been wondering about you and would have come back to you? When girls do that, it's time to do the same thing.

So, with that said, leave her alone. If she's not giving attention, then she doesn't deserve yours. As long as you're giving it to her, you're rewarding her bad behavior, and she'll find you unattractive.

Be as distant and as cold as she is. Let her come around. You've got nothing to lose.

 

[BMX]

What I've taken away from your post-prom dilemma is that SHE is the one feeling guilty. You said she fits into the sterotypical "good girl" category and that's what she is. You kissed her on the cheek during the drop-off but it's what she did at prom that has her doubting her persona.

Think back anteprom-night (b4), she drew you some pictures, interesting I agree. This time it is your turn to show a wee-bit of your creativity. Get some paper, what's that cardboard paper called again (remind me cuz I'm slippin') and make her a little card, nothing expensive or overly fancy. Sketch the outline of an angel or something and write a personal message between the two of you. Make her realize you still respect her and that she's still human.

There are girls that get this way when you don't contact them after sex, but in your case, she's a good girl and this is how she feels after just dancing w/you.

It's kill or be killed. But in the case of you, the DJ, it's "kill that desperation, or kill your chances." With that said, moderation is key, as I have found to be true w/many of life's endeavors (e.g. overtraining, eating, the balance of academics vs. leisure-time). The card or craft should not have to be over-the-top nor run-of-the-mill, find a choice set of balanced words to deliver.

If it makes you feel better, read my reply in Redspicyflag's "prom date last minute bailout" post. I haven't seen or heard from that chick since we graduated due to an unbelievable amount of AFC words I uttered over the next few months. To me, that only sucks because at the time, I must've been away from SS for too long because I call that recidivism. http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/recidivism
I am glad to say that I used it as a learning experience and not something to wallow in shamefully.

 

[ARrocket]

Did you know that if you wouldn't have reacted in any way towards her distancing herself towards you, she more than likely would have been wondering about you and would have come back to you? When girls do that, it's time to do the same thing.

So, with that said, leave her alone. If she's not giving attention, then she doesn't deserve yours. As long as you're giving it to her, you're rewarding her bad behavior, and she'll find you unattractive.

Be as distant and as cold as she is. Let her come around. You've got nothing to lose.

So instead of being a bit cold and blatantly flirting with other girls in front of her, I should have just acted as I normally had? Makes sense, I don't know why I didn't.

For some reason I feel this need to know why she suddenly began acting like this...it's almost as if her sister is driving her away from me. Oh well. Thanks for the reply.

 

[ARrocket]

What I've taken away from your post-prom dilemma is that SHE is the one feeling guilty. You said she fits into the sterotypical "good girl" category and that's what she is. You kissed her on the cheek during the drop-off but it's what she did at prom that has her doubting her persona.

Think back anteprom-night (b4), she drew you some pictures, interesting I agree. This time it is your turn to show a wee-bit of your creativity. Get some paper, what's that cardboard paper called again (remind me cuz I'm slippin') and make her a little card, nothing expensive or overly fancy. Sketch the outline of an angel or something and write a personal message between the two of you. Make her realize you still respect her and that she's still human.

There are girls that get this way when you don't contact them after sex, but in your case, she's a good girl and this is how she feels after just dancing w/you.

It's kill or be killed. But in the case of you, the DJ, it's "kill that desperation, or kill your chances." With that said, moderation is key, as I have found to be true w/many of life's endeavors (e.g. overtraining, eating, the balance of academics vs. leisure-time). The card or craft should not have to be over-the-top nor run-of-the-mill, find a choice set of balanced words to deliver.

If it makes you feel better, read my reply in Redspicyflag's "prom date last minute bailout" post. I haven't seen or heard from that chick since we graduated due to an unbelievable amount of AFC words I uttered over the next few months. To me, that only sucks because at the time, I must've been away from SS for too long because I call that recidivism. http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/recidivism
I am glad to say that I used it as a learning experience and not something to wallow in shamefully.

Interesting....I never even thought of it that way.

Obviously, I'm not as over her as I thought. I have another date set up this weekend, yet I still feel a need to get this girl...I'm worried that if I walk away, she won't come back. Damn, this sucks.

Although it's the "wrong" thing to do, I think it may be beneficial for me to just try again. If it fails, fine, but at least I won't have to worry about it. I'm graduating anyway, and going out of state to college...

 

[Mavrick]

I wouldn't try again. I wouldn't listen to anyone that says your lack of desperation is why she has bailed. The less you try, the more she'll be intrigued. Don't make yourself into a needy chump. Once you find yourself in need of this girl, you'll lose.

 

[BMX]

I wouldn't try again. I wouldn't listen to anyone that says your lack of desperation is why she has bailed. The less you try, the more she'll be intrigued. Don't make yourself into a needy chump. Once you find yourself in need of this girl, you'll lose.

Wow, definitely not what I implied. Way to insert your air-filled head into things. If you don't see what's wrong, then go get checked for your narcissistic personality disorder. Me, troll your threads? 649 posts in a little more than 2 months, hmmm Hombre that you? :rock: