Shadow Wilson
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Hey Guys,
I have felt guilty all weekend about something that happened recently. Should I really feel bad about this?
Here's the skinny. I met girl A, who I will call Blonde about a month ago. She works in my office building, she's 23, about a 7.5 with a cute face, average body. I am 29. We have flirted a bit, and initially I was attracted to her. I took her out for drinks once and I could tell she was showing high interest. We decided to meet at a free concert two days later, where she was hanging out with her girlfriends. For some reason I didn't find Blonde attractive in what she was wearing-- her tank top revealed she had the beginnings of a belly. It turned me off. One of her girlfriends, who I will call Brunette, I was immediately wildly attracted to. I end up spending most of my time at the concert with Blonde, but talked a bit with Brunette. Blonde and Brunette are sorority sisters who just graduated from college. Brunette makes it clear that she is available by asking me if I have any cute friends I can set her up with.
Blonde, Brunette and I decide to go out to a bar later on. Blonde is hanging all over me, even tells me she wants me to take her back to my place. Meanwhile, I'm doing my best job possible to mack Brunette, (while Blonde is in the bathroom, or getting drinks at the bar) who seems interested. She subtly hints to me that if we can somehow lose Blonde, she's game to continue the evening with me somewhere else. But I also think she is a bit shocked to find out I am interested in her and not her friend. Consider however, that all of us have been drinking that evening-- about four beers each-- and that Blonde and Brunette are good friends. Brunette ends up falling when we get outside and skinning her knee-- I try to help her with some bandaids but she jumps in a cab and goes home, almost like she's freaked out by the cut, even before I can covertly get her number without Blonde finding out.
Meanwhile, Blonde continues to hang on me and wants us to get our own cab back to my place. Considering that she and Brunette are good friends, and I don't want to ruin my chances with Brunette, I put Blonde in her own cab home and make up and excuse that we have had too much to drink and that I have to get up early. Blonde is a little bewildered by this. Next day, I make up something about the evening before in order for Blonde to give me Brunette's number. As devious as this all sounds, I decide that since I am more interested in Brunette, I will basically give Blonde the silent treatment for a week so that I can then call up Brunette.
Well, after a couple of days and everyone has sobered up, Blonde begins showing signs that she is shunning me, just as I am her, and I begin to wonder if she and Brunette have now exchanged information. To make a long story short, Blonde ends up figuring out that I was hitting on her friend all night-- and when I call Brunette, she is no longer expressing the interest as she was that night at the bar. I messed it all up.
My first question is, how could I have successfully shifted from Blonde to Brunette, considering that they are such good friends?
My second question is, how guilty should I feel about the way I treated Blonde?
I am a Jerk because:
1) Blonde is a nice, sweet girl who has shown high interest and who I initially expressed interest in. I spent most of the concert talking to Blonde and showed interest in her. She didn't see this coming.
2) Blonde actually introduced me to Brunette-- I wouldn't know Brunette except through Blonde introducing me.
3) I used Blonde to get Brunette's phone number by telling her a fib.
4) I basically rejected and humiliated Blonde because she showed her interest first. She asked me to take her home with me, and I rejected her. When she later found out this was obviously because I was more interested in her friend, the humiliation was complete.
I am not a Jerk because:
1) I only went out on one date with Blonde for drinks prior to this evening when I met Brunette. The evening when I met Brunette was not what I would call a date with Blonde-- we showed up at the concert separately.
2) I had never had sex or kissed Blonde before the evening when I met Brunette. I did make out with Blonde just for a little while before putting her in the cab--she pretty much forced me to when she started kissing me.
3) I did not carry Blonde home and have sex with her that night when I could have easily taken advantage of her.
4) At the time I could tell that Brunette was a better fit for me personality wise than Blonde. DID I REALLY OWE BLONDE ANYTHING BEFORE I STARTED HITTING ON HER FRIEND?
I have felt guilty all weekend about something that happened recently. Should I really feel bad about this?
Here's the skinny. I met girl A, who I will call Blonde about a month ago. She works in my office building, she's 23, about a 7.5 with a cute face, average body. I am 29. We have flirted a bit, and initially I was attracted to her. I took her out for drinks once and I could tell she was showing high interest. We decided to meet at a free concert two days later, where she was hanging out with her girlfriends. For some reason I didn't find Blonde attractive in what she was wearing-- her tank top revealed she had the beginnings of a belly. It turned me off. One of her girlfriends, who I will call Brunette, I was immediately wildly attracted to. I end up spending most of my time at the concert with Blonde, but talked a bit with Brunette. Blonde and Brunette are sorority sisters who just graduated from college. Brunette makes it clear that she is available by asking me if I have any cute friends I can set her up with.
Blonde, Brunette and I decide to go out to a bar later on. Blonde is hanging all over me, even tells me she wants me to take her back to my place. Meanwhile, I'm doing my best job possible to mack Brunette, (while Blonde is in the bathroom, or getting drinks at the bar) who seems interested. She subtly hints to me that if we can somehow lose Blonde, she's game to continue the evening with me somewhere else. But I also think she is a bit shocked to find out I am interested in her and not her friend. Consider however, that all of us have been drinking that evening-- about four beers each-- and that Blonde and Brunette are good friends. Brunette ends up falling when we get outside and skinning her knee-- I try to help her with some bandaids but she jumps in a cab and goes home, almost like she's freaked out by the cut, even before I can covertly get her number without Blonde finding out.
Meanwhile, Blonde continues to hang on me and wants us to get our own cab back to my place. Considering that she and Brunette are good friends, and I don't want to ruin my chances with Brunette, I put Blonde in her own cab home and make up and excuse that we have had too much to drink and that I have to get up early. Blonde is a little bewildered by this. Next day, I make up something about the evening before in order for Blonde to give me Brunette's number. As devious as this all sounds, I decide that since I am more interested in Brunette, I will basically give Blonde the silent treatment for a week so that I can then call up Brunette.
Well, after a couple of days and everyone has sobered up, Blonde begins showing signs that she is shunning me, just as I am her, and I begin to wonder if she and Brunette have now exchanged information. To make a long story short, Blonde ends up figuring out that I was hitting on her friend all night-- and when I call Brunette, she is no longer expressing the interest as she was that night at the bar. I messed it all up.
My first question is, how could I have successfully shifted from Blonde to Brunette, considering that they are such good friends?
My second question is, how guilty should I feel about the way I treated Blonde?
I am a Jerk because:
1) Blonde is a nice, sweet girl who has shown high interest and who I initially expressed interest in. I spent most of the concert talking to Blonde and showed interest in her. She didn't see this coming.
2) Blonde actually introduced me to Brunette-- I wouldn't know Brunette except through Blonde introducing me.
3) I used Blonde to get Brunette's phone number by telling her a fib.
4) I basically rejected and humiliated Blonde because she showed her interest first. She asked me to take her home with me, and I rejected her. When she later found out this was obviously because I was more interested in her friend, the humiliation was complete.
I am not a Jerk because:
1) I only went out on one date with Blonde for drinks prior to this evening when I met Brunette. The evening when I met Brunette was not what I would call a date with Blonde-- we showed up at the concert separately.
2) I had never had sex or kissed Blonde before the evening when I met Brunette. I did make out with Blonde just for a little while before putting her in the cab--she pretty much forced me to when she started kissing me.
3) I did not carry Blonde home and have sex with her that night when I could have easily taken advantage of her.
4) At the time I could tell that Brunette was a better fit for me personality wise than Blonde. DID I REALLY OWE BLONDE ANYTHING BEFORE I STARTED HITTING ON HER FRIEND?
