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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
If you aren't attracted to the same sex, you're not gay.Leuven said:Hi,
I like some advise because I'm very confused. I'm actually several years very confused, but since a couple of months, I'm even doubting my sexual thoughts.
Some background info, I'm 25, still virgin, never have had a girlfriend.
When reading the bible, I did some approaches but always failed terrible.
But I did made some changes. Some years ago I disliked homo's and lesbians, but now I didn't care anymore. I like music popular within the gay public, I try to dress well and spend more and more time on my outside.
On the other hand, I've never intended to approach a guy for the same reasons as a girl, I never think of guys in a sexual way, but I find myself thinking, that guy is hot, he can get anyone he wants.
I went a couple of times to a gay-bar, but that is a while ago, and don't intent to do it again.
Can anyone give me some good advice? I'm very confused, maybe it is just a stupid thought because I saw some gay movies last time. I'm not feeling attracked to guys, but on the other hand I'm not dating any girls.
I want to date females, but maybe it's my confusing that is standing in my way, and that confusion make me somewhat scared.
Please help
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Simple if your dyck gets hard for a girl then your not gay,if your dyck doesnt get hard for a guy then your not gay.This how you gotta test your penis go wacth a porn movie with of a girl with big boobs and big booty(*gets horny,lol*) and if you start getting horny while wacthing the girls your on a good road.Then next wacth a gay porono if your not turned on then YOUR NOT gay its up to YOUR PENIS to decide if it gets horny over a guy or girl.Leuven said:Hi,
I like some advise because I'm very confused. I'm actually several years very confused, but since a couple of months, I'm even doubting my sexual thoughts.
Some background info, I'm 25, still virgin, never have had a girlfriend.
When reading the bible, I did some approaches but always failed terrible.
But I did made some changes. Some years ago I disliked homo's and lesbians, but now I didn't care anymore. I like music popular within the gay public, I try to dress well and spend more and more time on my outside.
On the other hand, I've never intended to approach a guy for the same reasons as a girl, I never think of guys in a sexual way, but I find myself thinking, that guy is hot, he can get anyone he wants.
I went a couple of times to a gay-bar, but that is a while ago, and don't intent to do it again.
Can anyone give me some good advice? I'm very confused, maybe it is just a stupid thought because I saw some gay movies last time. I'm not feeling attracked to guys, but on the other hand I'm not dating any girls.
I want to date females, but maybe it's my confusing that is standing in my way, and that confusion make me somewhat scared.
Please help
I think this has a lot to do with how you were raised. Nothing wrong with emotion, you are human after all.Leuven said:- I'm emotional ( even crying with certain films )
- I think, or overthink everything too much. I never do anything without thinking and analyzing.
- None of my best friends have ever had a girlfriend.
- I can't let go any of the persons I know
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Hey man, from what you say I don't think you are gay. You are what we call a pvssy, that is, a man that has no balls.Leuven said:No,
I'm raised by both parents.
No, my d!ck isn't growing for a guy, only for girls.
The question just came to me when I was seeing this movie about a guy who is gay and tells his parents and then starts his life ( No action, from the moment I see a movie where there is some gay action, I turn it off )
Put the strange thing about that movie was that except for the being gay of that guy, it was just that I was looking at a movie about my personal life.
So that's the reason I thought, oh no, what if I'm also gay...
sincerely
:crackup:lauke said:The replies to this thread must have made him gayer.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
no dude that's just gayTry having sex with a guy, see if you like it. And then have sex with a chick. Ask yourself if which feels more right, and then you can decide which lifestyle is right. by the way, you could be bisexual as well