"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

I Fail, I Get Back Up, and I Try Again...

Wilove

Don Juan
Joined
Jul 7, 2008
Messages
19
Reaction score
7
Location
USA
Hey guys,

I just wanted to let you all know that I've been rejected countless times...

Did I mention Michael Jordan has missed thousands upon thousands of shots...

It's not really a big deal. It's how you react after the rejection that matters

(You can learn as much from failure as you can from success)

Try going out with a super happy positive attitude... try approaching like 10 girls like this to pump up your state.

Go in with the attitude that you don't give a damn, and are out to have a good time no matter what happens.

Even if the set goes 'bad' just continue pressing on...

A lot of times an interaction that you initially think is 'bad' actually turns out good.

Remember that women will often put on a negative front when you first approach them, especially in a club. This is usually a test to see what your intentions are or if you'll tuck your tail between your legs and run away.

How you react to this often what makes or breaks you. Remain confident and positive no matter how she reacts.

Be completely unaffected by the outcome.

If the interaction still isn't going so well, just keep your head up, smile and move on. (whatever happened you got practice and probably learned something)

If you're a guy who's generally shy you probably have a pretty pessimistic attitude and are not even aware.

Deny that negative chatter box in your head from bothering you. You have to counter and shut off any negative thoughts and keep on treking!

I even have nights where I'm rejected countless times but can still end up having a good time. Maybe I'll meet some interesting characters, or just chill and have some good conversations.

A week ago I had such a 'bad' night, probably because I was in a negative state already. My anxiety felt like it was getting the most of me. I kept trying to pump up my state and had a lot of bad reactions from girls.

Anyways at the end of the night I ended up meeting a girl who I have a date with tonight.

What does this prove?

That persistence pays off especially in this game.

If I had let my bad mood get the most of me I would have given up, but I kept trying to have a good time and finally connected with someone...

Make every interaction a learning experience... good luck
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

COD

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 19, 2006
Messages
1,197
Reaction score
30
HMMM ya i used to think that too.........but learning from failures and trying to improve with each new interaction is the key.

A lot of guys just keep approaching the same way and expecting different results. Getting rejected over and over is not what you are shooting for. Where it does build up your fear of rejection it does very little to resolve your situation.

The numbers game (approach enough targets and someone will respond positively eventually) is not the best course of action.

PERFECT PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT.....remember the old saying DO IT RIGHT THE FIRST TIME,Its very true......no one can be perfect the first time out....but you can improve though small incremental steps.......I think the Japanese call this KAISEN.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

Top