I f*cked up

[stevera004]

OK, I was at my little cuties place last night. Tired after a long day, we were cuddling etc. Suddenly (well, it was sudden to me) she starts with comments like:

"What qualities do you look for in a wife?"

There were more questions I don't remember them all. I panic'ed (I always panic when I hear any of the following words: wife, husband, spouse, kids, marriage) and I said something along the lines of "the relationship is moving too fast for me". etc.

She was hurt; and I feel terrible about hurting her (she's a real sweet softie).

Don't know what I'm looking for in this post; mainly just a chance to spill my guts, but if anyone has any comments at all that would be great too.

Thank you,

 

[DJDamage]

ouch sounds like she was giving you a subtle test..... basically she was saying " Am I the type of woman you see yourself married to"

I think you weren't fooled by her test but you got caught off guard and instead of making light of the situation, you basically gave her your honest answer.

Hopefully if she is a sweetie, she won't make a big deal out of it. But somewhere soon she may want to "have the talk" and get a stright answer. You dug yourself a little hole, hopefully it won't reach China.

 

[MichaelangelloB]

Say "I don't know, I've never been married." Or for God's sake man lie. Yeah I'm young but even I know that the lie is often your best friend.

 

[Omega]

Just humor her.

"A wife? Well, do you remember your High School ancient histories class?"

*wait for reply*

"Well, the romans had what they called...slaves. I for some reason see myself married to a woman with similar qualities "

Make humor of the conversation, don't ever give anything away for free.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Originally posted by R3N3GAD3
Just humor her.

"A wife? Well, do you remember your High School ancient histories class?"

*wait for reply*

"Well, the romans had what they called...slaves. I for some reason see myself married to a woman with similar qualities "

Make humor of the conversation, don't ever give anything away for free.

Absolutely agree. Your number one default move to these tests should always be humor. Always turn it around. Role reversals are the easiest to remember and apply.

"Marriage? You haven't even bought me my 18 karat rock for my finger!"

A witty comment will buy you some extra time to come up with something else if she persists.

 

[Crank_It_Up]

qualities in a wife, hmm...

a girl that has a 6 figure income,
that has sex more than 5 times a week,
that can climax in less than 4 minutes, and more than once,
that has a higher IQ than her weight,
that can't stay mad for more than 3 minutes,
and will let me have at least 2 other girlfriends.

Anything else you wanna know?

 

[cave dweller]

talking trash

H*ll,

Who gives a sh*t what she says.
Humor her.
Think about it----she may be the best piece of *ss you ever had and your getting all hung up on what kind I woman do I want to marry?

cave dweller

 

[supernaut41]

Yeah I had a latino girl for three years (her caving point of waiting for "the question") and she was always testing. Just play into her emotional fantasy about marriage(you know the one all little girls dream of) and when she tests, just C&F her and maybe a few minutes later, do something romantic.DO NOT get all gushy about it (even when you're trying to get that pu$$y!) and blurt out something you'll regret later (she'll remember...believe me). I dont know about you, but the keepers are the ones who dont l pressure the relationship by keeping track of how long it takes before its marriage time and genuinely enjoys sharing the relationship. I would recomend being up front and TELL her what YOU want. Don't do a John Kerry and flip flop.

 

[ogre]

what do I want from a wife?

well, that's an easy one........

try this:

I want you to love me, comfort me, have sex with me, bear my children, (lots of children), and care for them until they are grown and old enough to fly on their own. Then I kick your sorry old menepausal ass out and get me a younger woman who can bear more children. I'll letcha stick around if you can cook, but if you nag me, just once, I'll shoot ya.....

 

[chicksrock]

Dude its not so bad.

We don't know exactly what your relationship is like with this woman, but it seems like you are into her and regret hurting her.

Look its not so bad.

Obviously she digs you.

Its ok to go AFC on her sometimes and have a heart-to-heart.

I think you should do that.
I think you should tell her the truth and how you feel.

You don't have to always bottle up your feelings and spit game at women 100% of the time.

In my opinion, its ok to bend the rules when need arises.

good luck!

 

[dietzcoi]

Man, joking with a woman about marriage and kids is very, very scary stuff... very dangerous! I would advise against it!

If you love the danger and love extreme sky diving without a parachute, then go for it!

Dietzcoi