Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I envy clueless men.

joeEtata

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I know a lot of guys, mostly online, who are in that "Women are magical beings that never sh*t" mode and buy into the idea of happily ever after and hollywood type bs...and they seem happier than me.

I mean they're frustrated beyond belief, but it's because "They want a girlfriend" and they think having a girlfriend is the answer to their other problems, like some big cure-all.

When you've dated women and no that it's no big deal and not the meaning of life...and you just want poontang...it's much more frustrating. I would do just about anything but sell out my family for a night in bed with a cute, interested girl.

I'm not really looking for advice in this thread, just needed to vent.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Oh, they're happy...until they get divorced, sued for everything they've got, and are stuck paying child support
 

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HolyG said:
Oh, they're happy...until they get divorced, sued for everything they've got, and are stuck paying child support
Hopefully this will shut you the f*ck up joeEtata. Stop making useless threads, and do something to change your life instead of complaining.
 

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What is the difference between a clueless and desperate guy and you, if you're willing to do anything short of sell out your family just for ONE night with a cute, interested girl?

YOU seem to be the clueless guy my friend. Get your sh*t together and stop whining; taking action gets you where you want to be.
 

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Dude f<cking quit your whining and complaining!

You want something to complain about?! If you look at the thread I just recently started, my gf who I loved, was just stripped and taken from me by immigration, and she is banned from entering this country again legally for 10 years. But you don't see me starting a bunch of threads getting all emo and whining about how life ain't fair.

And you know what? Life goes on, I'm already talking to 2 other girls cause I know I have no choice but to buck up and get back on the saddle and find myself another one. It is a seemingly neverending process to find a good woman but let me tell you as long as you put forth the effort and stop complaining, you will find one.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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joeEtata said:
I'm not really looking for advice in this thread, just needed to vent.

You do a lot of venting, don't you? Lots of venting. Little improving.

You don't want to be THAT guy, do you?
 

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Most people vent on here...they're just better at disguising it. And most guys on this site blame women and feminism for everything. At least I don't hate women...yeah I'm mad that I'm undersexed, but I don't think women are the devil.
 

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Mantis Toboggan said:
You do a lot of venting, don't you? Lots of venting. Little improving.

You don't want to be THAT guy, do you?
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What is the point of turning negatives into more negatives?

Dude, go to the gym, read a book, record your thoughts in a notebook, something, anything but just complain like this cause the bottom line is it produces nothing positive.

I know it can be hard and is easier said then done, and believe me, I am struggling with my current situation too, but at some point in your life you have got to buck up and move forward. Time flies by, and ask yourself, do you still want to be THAT guy 5 years from now that just sits and b!tches about women?
 

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joeEtata said:
I know a lot of guys, mostly online, who are in that "Women are magical beings that never sh*t" mode and buy into the idea of happily ever after and hollywood type bs...and they seem happier than me.

I mean they're frustrated beyond belief, but it's because "They want a girlfriend" and they think having a girlfriend is the answer to their other problems, like some big cure-all.

When you've dated women and no that it's no big deal and not the meaning of life...and you just want poontang...it's much more frustrating. I would do just about anything but sell out my family for a night in bed with a cute, interested girl.

I'm not really looking for advice in this thread, just needed to vent.
This post is small, but there is a heck of a lot of things going on. :D

I'd say both you and the other guys are taking women too god damn seriously.

Think about it.

On one hand, you have a bunch of wishy-washy feminized doods who just want that one special girl for the end of their lifes. Are these guys mental? Why would someone want just ONE girl, why even want a girlfriend if you are young, like me, when you can hook up with different chicks every night? Cuz you're dumb, that's why. Unless you are an adult I wouldn't recommend you getting a GF. (Whatever an adult is, but people my age, like 19 or a little older, you get what I mean I hope).

But, these guys also have something good going on for them. They LIKE girls, in a way. They think they'd have super awesome fun with them.... They just gotta fix their desperation or they are gonna crash and BURN. So they better lighten the hell up, wash their face with cold water meditate on their stupidity and I mean fast.

Now... YOU. You just want "pootang". Why? It's fun to be with girls too. You may be messed up if you aren't having a good time. Of course, every guy wants *****, and that is good for you to admit, too. And if you at least try to get girls... My hat is off to you. But you are still being too serious about this. And that ain't right. "I would do just about anything but sell out my family for a night in bed with a cute, interested girl." The hell is wrong with you, dawg?? Are you going frigging insane in the brain??!?! Maaaaan that is some stuff that should NEVER be said, you better ***** slap the hell out of yourself and bury that stupid moment of your life when you decided that it was somehow a good idea to write this crap for thousands of ppl to read. Of course everyone wants to get laid but there is a line when you say "This is too much", you want girls, but this sounds like NEEDINESS fool. Patience is a virtue! There are plenty of fish in the sea. PEACE.

BTW, women is not the meaning of life but it's a fun part of life. Don't give it too much value, sure, but don't give it too little value, either.

Ps: When I talked about that quote in bold, I am not criticizing what you wrote per se, but it seems that the tone of your whole post, it wasn't said jokingly or was it? It sounds wrong... Maybe a little bit more info would make the others able to help you better. This is the internet, it can be hard to realize if someone is being a little sarcastic or serious... At least for me it sometimes is. Halla, big up, everyone!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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JoeEtata it's great that you're so open about your shallowness and vanity (previous post) and pessimism about women. Not like all of these haters on the forum, who are just denying it or disguising it, right? That really must be the only thing separating you from other experienced members on this forum.

I feel the need to state that this is sarcasm, because it might not be laid on thick enough.

Not all of us think that women add no value to our lives except acting as a warm, wet hole. I don't think that dissilusionment about the potential for women to enhance our lives comes with exposure, although it CAN. I have actually gained optimism from one past relationship in particular, because I realized just how positive the influence a woman has can be!

I hope you find someone like that soon. They are human beings and some of them are pretty awesome.
 

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I was cyncical and skeptical but the point is nothing should be your life and if you aren't doing it you're miserable and this especially pertains to women.

Women should be a compliment to your life not the focus.

Once you get your inner game straight you'll see that you don't a need woman they need you:)
 

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Can't stand dudes that tell other dudes to stop whining and complaining or *****ing. Seriously, that sort of guilt trip $hit is best left for females.....guys. UNLESS it's followed up with some quality advice. Sometimes you should weather abuse if for your greater good. Most times not.
 
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