Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I ended the relationship; long story

JHager

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Well just last Friday, which happened to be my one year anniversary, I happened to finally snap or in general terms - grow some balls. I dumped my girlfriend.

For the last year, I haven't been a man, and I didn't even realize it. If it wasn't for the discovery of several articles in magazines about seduction of women, AFC's and such, and the discovery of this forum, I would still be lost.

For the last year, I've gone out with a pretty hot blonde girl; all my friends were in awe at how hot she was. At the beginning of it all, I was super confident, she approached me first at a party and I had a great dialogue. The first night I made out with her and a little more. In less than a week, we had sex.

However, a month in to the relationship, something changed. I don't know what exactly or when exactly, but I became her puppet. She won me over and I became a *****. She stopped giving me as much sex, she started talking to other guys, and I became weak.

To get her attention, or to get her to give me sex, I started taking her on fancy dates and purchasing her fancy items - never realizing it was a complete mistake.

I started getting more miserable, and by the time I spent $700 on her birthday (a fancy hotel room in Los Angeles, gifts, and fancy dinner), I realized that I totally ****ed up and I wasn't a man anymore.

My friends had disserted me, because I was spending so much time with her. After her birthday, I started hanging out with them more for advice. The *****ed me out, and lectured me, and I broke it off with her not much longer on our one year anniversary (when of course she was hanging out with her friends and not me).

She was great at manipulating me, and making me feel like crap. I wish nobody the pain I went through the last few months.

I guess this post is a combination of things. First, to say Hello to the DJ group, been reading for a few weeks, seems like a great crowd. Secondly to inform everybody that plans on being in a relationship to learn the difference between being a man and a *****. Lastly is to ask for advice on starting over and to getting over a relationship.

I'm a little weak right now, I'm rebuilding my masculinity, but I do have confidence. I'm good looking, and I have money, but right now, I don't have the drive or motivation to start getting out there and trying to pick up women - however, in the back of my head, I know I need to push myself or
I'll just be the ******* she turned me in too..

Any advice, please...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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joekerr31

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sure. stop saying she turned you into a *****. you had a ***** inside of you and she gave the opportunity to bring it out. now that you know you do kill it.

let go of all your anger towards her and realize that you were played because you didn't love yourself first and foremost. you didn't respect yourself enough to stand up and walk out before.

but now you do. so be thankful that she came into your life and you were taught this lesson.

now you are free to try all kinds of women on for size, and youll know that if you get played again that you have the balls to walk out.

your a free man. see the positive in all this and enjoy your newfound freedom.

J
 

wowiehowie

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Dude, glad to hear you woke up and stood up for yourself. We all know it sucks to break something off after a year.
I'd take a few weeks and do sh!t that you missed doing by yourself or with your buds. If you don't feel like gettin' out there and looking for chicks, that's fine too. Try to avoid the rebound thing which means trying to fill that void too soon.
Time, reflexion, introspection, and lessons learned will prepare you to be stronger next time.
 

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Best thing for you is to think like this:

"Sure i've spend some $, but hey, I've been f.ucking a hot blond for a year!" Now its time to get a new one, not so expensive.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Big Eee Zee

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well done, welcome to the community. you will see me around, im sure.
 
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