I Dumped her, Did I Judge Her Too Harshly??

[soulforge]

Did i judge her too harshly?

Long Story Short

I was seeing this woman for 3 months, but started to develop some feelings for her... my gut was trying to warn me, that i am taking a risk with this girl & i was finding it hard to trust her.

I met this woman on plenty of fish dating site... i spoke to her for about 15 minutes & within 2 hours of talking to her online she drove down straight to my house.

she came straight to my house, late at around 11pm & did not meet me in a bar or pub or anywhere public

This woman claims to be a good girl, honest & with morals yet i have listed some things below that was major red flags


01) Her best friend sleeps around with a lot of men off dating sites (pof)

02) She had sex with me within 2 hours of meeting me

03) She came straight to my house at 11pm, no bar meet or public meet

04) She bought some lube & a DILDO with her on the first date

(this suggests she was coming over & was probably expecting to have sex)

05) She is a bit shady with her mobile phone & keeps it on silent around me

06) She told me, that she used to drive for a drug dealer

07) It takes her ages to reply back to my text messages & her behaviour seems shady

08) She is a single mother with 3 kids

09) She met another guy before me off plenty of fish & she went straight to his house too, just like she did with me... but she claims not to have had sex with this guy

10) She told me, this guy had just recently texted her wanting to meet up, but she claims to have said no to him.. maybe he is a back up plan

11) She has shown some interested in taking part in a 3sum or a 4sum

12) She never rings me, and i don't ring her... all our communication is by text message

13) We only meet once a week

the thing is, when she was with me, she was quite nice & buys me gifts & seems quite caring...

anyhow i decided to go ghost on this chick.... did i judge her too harshly, or did i do the right thing???

 

[Frogster]

Simple enough.

Read through all the posts telling you to get rid of her 3 months ago.

Imho she wasnt even worthy of fwb.

 

[TheException]

Why would you ever want to deal with a woman who has all of these red flags?

You can do better....

 

[TheGambino]

Keep her as a straight f*ck buddy and f*ck with protection enjoy have fun and get rid of her. Spin plates and call her up when you want to f*ck thats it, she aint worth more. So for now don't iniate contact, wait for her to call a couple of times then pick up and let her begg you to come over, f*ck her good, comfort her and let her do all the work from that point, if she doesn't put effort in it next.

 

[soulforge]

Keep her as a straight f*ck buddy and f*ck with protection enjoy have fun and get rid of her. Spin plates and call her up when you want to f*ck thats it, she aint worth more. So for now don't iniate contact, wait for her to call a couple of times then pick up and let her begg you to come over, f*ck her good, comfort her and let her do all the work from that point, if she doesn't put effort in it next.

the thing is, i had an argument with her a couple of weeks ago, she mis interpurated a text that i sent her & she got quite *****y about it...

i decided not to talk to her after that, as i felt dis respected... went ghost on her.. about a week later she sent me a text, that she wanted to pick up her things from my place

i left them outside from her, she picked them up.. then next day i got a text from her, trying to guilt trip me... i hardly read the text and just deleted it.

anyhow not spoke to her for baout 2 weeks in total

girls like this are riding next man ****k in no time... anyhow was thinking about maybe keeping her around for a bit, so i can occasionaly fuk her

till i get more plates... should i send her a text, see what response i get?

 

[skinnyguy]

I stopped reading after #8

 

[soulforge]

Cognitive dissonance....you know logically she is probably a h0, BUT you developed some "feelings" (mostly chemical) for her because you spent time with her. It's that simple. DJs don't like to admit that repeated sex/hanging out might cause some kind of bonding but it will - especially if she's the only plate in your rotation right now. The thing is these "feelings" are chemical rushes, nothing more - what I mean is you don't have true, deep feelings for this woman, just a flow of post-sexual oxytocin.

As for whether to reach out - why bother? Move on....you banged her in record time anyway, you will be laughing about this chick with your buddies in a few weeks.

i have to agree with you man... i don't really have deep feelings for this girl... i know she is not to be trusted & the red flags coming out of her ass!

the only value i have for her is this.. she is a total slut.. i mean i wanted to have some adventures with her... try some 3sums or 4sums etc etc

she is up for pretty much anything

but having fun with her may come at a price.. i don't want to catch any feelings for her...

maybe i will just let it go & find another girl..but on a sexual level, this is a very good plate!!!

 

[G_Govan]

The most disturbing thing about this post is that you gave your home address to a woman you've never met within 2 hours of talking to her online.

 

[GS750]

I stopped reading after #8

Yep. 3 kids at home? No thanks.

 

[soulforge]

okay so here are my options...

01) i contact her, see if i get a response from her... if she ignores me, then f@ck her, she was a cheap slut anyway with no chance of a LTR, time to move on & find another chic

02) she gets back to me, try to get her back as a f@ck buddy, have some fun & adventures with her, then get rid of her at some point

03) or i do nothing, if she contacts me again, then maybe i bang her, for now look for other chicks

do i really have anything to lose??

 

[soulforge]

withn this many red flags... would you guys try to keep around for sex?

or just NEXT her....

 

[Atom Smasher]

Next

 

[SgtSplacker]

How do you let yourself catch feelings for a girl that brings a dildo on her first date man? WTF?

With 3 farking kids! At what point does she qualify to just be a FBuddy?

Wouldn't this be a great thing? I mean after you get over the fact that you are not going to be wifeing this one up. Isn't it good a chick brings a dildo to bang you on her first date at your place? She's an angel sent straight from heaven to please you sexually FOR FREE. And you're ruining it...

I don't get it.

Don't even talk sexual with girls if you are going to be this way when they show up with a dildo for fun time man. Just start talking physics or pokemon or whatever interests you so you don't lead them on.

My advice is to have a sexual relationship with this woman. This is good for your growth as a man. Men bang women that wan't to have secks. Men don't go wifeing up every little thing that shows an inkling of interest. You have to remove the emotions from your groin dude. Stop thinking, start farking. You obviously need plates, there's an awesome one right here and you're letting her go because you are confused.

Stop being weird

Edit: I mean look at the title of this thread "dumped"... WTF you didn't dump anything! This girl just wanted to bang you and your using relationship terms when describing her!

Sorry if i'm being a little rough here, but you really need to get your head on straight, you're acting like a girl.