"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

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I Dumped her before she dumped me?

The North Dragon

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Me and my girl had an argument about 1.5 week ago and i just got pissed off with her and hung up th phone and ignored her for th rest of the day. I then spoke to her th next day but cud tell she was still off with me and then it finally hit...she wanted space. She claimed that ' she didnt know where she stood anymore and suggested time apart would fix that becausing wehad been srguing over text for 4 days it never helped' . She never made in effort to call, meet to sort it out. She rejected me and hung out with friends. I knew it wasnt the kind of space she wanted if i had been clingy and desperate. I hardly shown an interest when she suggested space but that dragged out for 4 days and thats when i stupidly agreed to it. I stopped contacting her for 2 days and over this time she added males friends to her social networking site and also hidden/changed her relationship status so that it appeared she was single. She never stated any rules on this break only that we leave each othe alone for a few weeks to ' know where stand' . I noticed most guys she added were her work members.
At this point in day 2 of not contacting i felt like **** and like i was being punished and could feel that a break up was definetely on the horizon. I wanted to cut my loses before she dumped n got the upper hand. She has done this 'space' thing before...broke up but we eneded up gettin back together and lasting 2.5 years until now where i broke up with a**.
Did i do the right thing guys? I still have feelings for this girl and i know if i see her with some other dude it will kill me.
Thought i would also mention she had her insecurity as all her previous bf's cheted where as i havent dont know if she is playin the victim there or not? Also quite controlling and demanding i not speak to certain girls or as she calls them 'slags' .
None the less i still like her. When. Dunped her she said i was goin the wrong way about this and i replied' well know u have all the space in the world'. That was yesterday.
Thanks
 

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It sounds a mess and doesnt look healthy. long term it wont get better. she is playing push pull with you, wants you, doesnt want you, rinse and repeat.
she isnt putting any effort in either so it looks doomed.
and her wanting space? we all know what that really means.
did you actually dump her? as in tell her that you are walking?

what to do now? delete or block her from FB, no calls or texts, she will try and reel you in at some point, to see how much you are 'hurting' to make her feel good, she will also do stuff to make you jealous, you need to get your life and sh!t together, get socialising with friends and other women, dont be seen to mope around, whining and *****ing, fake it till you make it if you have to.
 

The North Dragon

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Yeah i told her we have to go our seperate ways now and let that be the end of it. Thanks for the memories.
 

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When they ask for space, you absolutely do not chase and you absolutely give them the grand canyon. It will freak her out, given time.
 
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