I dumped girl and instantly ramped up I interest, how do I proceed?

[Bagslowy1]

I took a girl that I work with out on several dates. In the past few weeks she has not committed to any time outside of work and in general showed no interest (didn't initiate anything and acted distant). Before she could reject me I rejected her. After rejecting her, the next day at work she immediately started showing a high level of interest again.

How do I proceed? It seems weak to ask her out so soon after rejecting her, but she is passive and I feel would never ask me out on her own. Do ya'll think it would be OK to ask her out just days after rejecting her on account of her knowing I am willing to walk away?

 

[MrWood]

ask her to your place to cook dinner together and watch a sh1tty movie

 

[grayclif]

Dating in women you work with is a big no no. There are so many disaster stories on this board where guys thought that they could overcome this type of situation. You are done with her now so I'd leave it at that. Get more woman in your dating rotation so you aren't so tempted to date women at your workplace.

 

[bigneil]

By "several dates" does OP mean he joined her group at work to get lunch? How did OP "reject her" at work? How did she subsequently "show high interest in" OP? It sounds like this whole thing could be existing only in OP's mind.

Men don't reject women, they stop pursuing women.

Also, the "dump her before she dumps you" tactic only works once. You can only get her to panic to keep you around one time and she'll start preparing herself, and the next time it happens the relationship will break versus bend.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

How do you work it. You frame all your interactions around sex, and as long as she keeps coming back your good.

 

[El Payaso]

She just wants an ego boost.