"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I don't wear good clothes because...

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I found myself having all of these new clothes but for a reason not wanting to wear them when I go out to sarge.

So I wear normal clothes(functional ones like this: http://images.otto.de/asset/mmo/formatz/Schoeffel-Funktionsjacke-Blackburn-blau-7314361.jpg for instance ), approach women I find sexy who are always better dressed, tell them I want to get to know them, get rejected, go home after having repeated that a few times - weirdly happy that nothing happened, that I got no number to call or a girl in my room I had to satisfy now. When I am out I am thinking: "Well this girl wouldn't want me with those clothes as my past experiences proved so I better look for underdressed girls", which I don't find or which are ugly facewise.

Without giving me the "I don't know you"-rap*, what could be the reason for this?


*After all we are all men, so we can relate to why we do different things without having to be in each other's shoes.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Philippe Schlichting said:
I found myself having all of these new clothes but for a reason not wanting to wear them when I go out to sarge.

So I wear normal clothes(functional ones like this: http://images.otto.de/asset/mmo/formatz/Schoeffel-Funktionsjacke-Blackburn-blau-7314361.jpg for instance ), approach women I find sexy who are always better dressed, tell them I want to get to know them, get rejected, go home after having repeated that a few times - weirdly happy that nothing happened, that I got no number to call or a girl in my room I had to satisfy now. When I am out I am thinking: "Well this girl wouldn't want me with those clothes as my past experiences proved so I better look for underdressed girls", which I don't find or which are ugly facewise.

Without giving me the "I don't know you"-rap*, what could be the reason for this?


*After all we are all men, so we can relate to why we do different things without having to be in each other's shoes.
Honestly, those functional clothes you gave as an example blend in well with each other, I think you are underselling what you wear.
Find clothes and a style that suits you, and wear it like no-one else would, know that when you wear those clothes, you are the best at wearing them.
 

Zerro

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Clothes only complement your innate looks, a monkey in a suit is still a monkey just the same as how no amount of lipstick will make a pig look sexy. That aside it's more important to dress for your audience, wearing a suit somewhere where everyone else is in jeans and a t-shirt will get attention but it'll mostly be the "is that guy stopping here on his way to an interview or a funeral?" sort of attention.
 
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