I don't want to be in THIS relationship.

[YT827]

I'm in a relationship with a girl, still in its early stages but I know that I'll never be happy. She's great...no major issues, attractive, and awesome personality.

But I'm really into slim, athletic white chicks that aren't attention *****s.

That is rare...and even rarer that a black guy can hook up with one and be in a serious relationship.

Do I just have to suck it up and have a girlfriend I'm not really attracted to? Will she grow on me?

 

[sodbuster]

It's going to annoy you more and more. You won't get used to it. IF it's a deal breaker now,it will be in 2 months-except you've wasted 2 months.

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

Stupid question. If you don't like the relationship, then don't be in it.

 

[YT827]

It's not a stupid question. What I like may not happen. I could spend my entire life trying to have a relationship that will never happen.

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

It's not a stupid question. What I like may not happen. I could spend my entire life trying to have a relationship that will never happen.

Yeah. Because your entire life's worth of relationships will be settled by this current girl, right? Once again...smarten up.

Are you on your death bed? Are you 85 years old and crippled? You running out of time for somethin? If you don't like her, leave her.

 

[starplayer]

Maybe you can keep this girl around until a better option comes along. It depends whether you can put up with her for now, but don't expect her to grow on you.

Wait until you find a girl who's closer to what you want, then you can branch-swing and leave the current chick.

 

[sodbuster]

After 5 or 10 years of looking for MRS RIGHT,then you an say she's not out there and settle. How long you been looking? How old are you? I'm 50,but I didn't get married until I was 33-still managed to pick the wrong one,divorced her and am looking.

 

[comic_relief]

My first instinctive response is to say "If you don't like her now and you know it, then you won't like her down the road."

If this is all about looks, than you are shallow and only after the relationship for shallow reasons. Go play the field.

If this is about her personality and her life goals, then you should talk with her. My girlfriend and I had issues about our goals and her wanting to control me. Eventually we talked through these issues, and we are together for seven months now. It's all about talking and compromise.

- comic_relief

 

[Warrior74]

Variety is the spice of life. You don't HAVE to be in any relationship. You sound like a child. If your not getting what you want leave? If she wasn't what you wanted why did you end up in a relationship in the first place? That's the question you need to really be asking yourself. Why were you so weak that you ended up somewhere you didn't want to be? Why are you so weak or afraid that you just can't tell her its over and walk away? What are you afraid of? This is less about your preferences and more about who you are as a man. Children take what is given to them, men go out and get what they want. Which are you?

My idea is a slim redhead with freckles and big tits and a tight ass. I'm dating a black girl, an italian american, a couple of all American white girls and a red head with no freckles and little tits but a nice ass. Am I ever gonna find my ideal? Maybe, maybe not, who's to say? But I'm going to have fun and enjoy different women until then. Are any of these women my girlfriend? No. Why? Because I don't want them to be. Will they eventually leave and stop talking to me when I don't commit, Yes, yes they will. Will they threaten me with ultimatums, yes. Yes they will. Will I cave in. No. No I won't. Why? Because I know they are just for fun right now. I'm not serious about any of them. I'll let them go and wish them the best.