"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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i dont wanna screw this up

gsj23421

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for a little background on my situation please check out this post first: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=209038

today this super hot girl (8/10) came to our school, i was the first to approach her it went super smooth. i opened very naturally, i flirted and it went great. i dont yet know if she is going to my school but i think i have a good chance to get with her (even though she has a boyfriend but both him and her are grade younger than me, im junior shes soph.) btw im not socially awkward and im good looking but my text game sucks. (i only text to set up meets) otherwise im confident talking to girls in person. i dont have a very strong social circle game and there aren't many parties in my school as you can read in my previous post. i just don't want to screw this up cuz last time i tried getting with a girl i scrwed up big time. also please tell me the "quick way" cuz i wanna move in before someone else does. also she told me her parents took her phone up. is this a sh** test or should i wait a few days before texting her? what would be a good solid text opener? i know this sounds kind of stupid but what steps should i take to "get with her"? (mostly just a hookup but maybe date her) is it even worth trying to get with her if i dont have very strong social game? please give me some tips on building rapport? if thats the next move i should make? (advice other than just talk to her, like give some good topics that would "peak" her interest in me) texting tips? also since she has a boyfriend, how can i still "get with her" (i mean i know its possible but how can i?)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I didn't even read. I read the title man. You care wayyyyyyyyyy to much and your wayyyyyyyy to desperate.

Your putting the pvssy on the pedastil. stop yourself. change your perspective.
 

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The only thing you can control is yourself. Either she bites or she doesn't. Stay cool
 

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Your making her the prize.
Remember you are the prize to be won.
You are the MAN (atleast id hope)
She should be trying to win your attention not the other way around.

On a serious note OP she has a boyfriend, its not worth the trouble. I would skip it and move.
 

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You are over thinking this way too much. This is almost too preposterous to address...

Just relax and go with the flow. If you get all flustered she will she that you are not socially calibrated and not experienced with women.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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