"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I don't wanna mess this up...

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ARrocket

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Alright, if anybody saw my last couple of posts....that girl has agreed to go to prom with me.

I've been pretty AFC since she said she could go (which was today....yesterday she said she had to ask her mom lol). Then she asked me if I was buying both of the tickets, AND I SAID YES!!!!! ARRRGH. Why would I do that? oh well, that's done with. Now, she says that her parents want to meet me. She gave me her number today, and said to call her at 5. Obviously, I'm not gonna call at 5, but I guess I'll call tonight....

Anyway, any words of advice? I need to meet these parents as soon as possible, I suppose, but I have a feeling this could go very badly for me...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Should I just call and try to get her out of the house first, then maybe meet the parents later?
 
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I think some of the DJ's in the highschool forum could offer better advice.

The one thing that comes to mind though, is you need to be more confident.

My experience has been when you go into something with an attitude like "I don't wanna mess this up..." you usually do.

You're playing not to lose, when you should be playing to win.

Stop overthinking it and relax.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Yeah, thanks. You guys are right, of course...I'm just worried about one awkward phone convo I guess.
 
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It's good to hear you got a date for prom man.

Parents are hella easy to please. Just shake their hand, give em small-talk, make them think you're a "nice young man" or w/e. I've never had problems impressing parents.

Are you really only nervous about parents?
 
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First off, no big deal about payin for the prom ticket, its a small price to pay for not going stag. Secondly and more importantly, don't worry about the parents. Just be yourself, they'll just have a few questions for you. Unless you come across as a total jerk driving a muscle car, they're not going to stop her from going on the date at the 11th hour.

If you are the total jerk driving the muscle car, then you wouldn't be hear asking.

So just do it and don't worry. Have fun man, you only have one prom night and don't worry about having to seal the deal, just have fun.
 
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