I don't understand the age old 'when you stop thinking about girls...'

[Tomo]

A month back and I got fed up with how much I fixate over woman I gave myself a goal - to not think about or give any notion to woman and to see how long I could. Obviously I would still keep in contact with them but overall I wanted my focus switched elsewhere.

Yet irony seems to sink in in these situations. Currently I have a date organised with what I'd consider a high 9 and two 8's inviting me out with them. I've number closed quite a few more woman and it seems they are just everywhere. I am honestly trying my hardest not to give it a thought.

Anyone want to explain this phenomenon? This is honestly not a bragging thread heck - the dry spell still continues and I haven't slept with any of them. I just don't get how as a friend told me 'once you stop thinking or when you least expect something, it happens'.

 

[3agle 3yes]

It might just be a coincidence?

However, not fixating over women gives yourself the mind-set of abundance.

People are attracted to others who have more than they need as opposed to those who lack.

 

[zekko]

Anyone want to explain this phenomenon? This is honestly not a bragging thread heck - the dry spell still continues and I haven't slept with any of them. I just don't get how as a friend told me 'once you stop thinking or when you least expect something, it happens'.

I remember when I was in a dry spell and people told me this, it used to p!ss me off so much, lol. That said:

I always thought the reason that this happened was, sort of like 3agle 3yes said, just coincidence. Sort of like saying a watched pot never boils. Basically, you divert your attention onto something else, and you're distracted with that, and time goes by, and in the meantime a chick gets attracted to you, but you were busy so you didn't notice the time going by. Like you did when you were sitting around worrying about why you weren't getting any pvssy all the time.

However, there's another explanation. When you are distracted with other things, and not thinking about women, you're not thinking about them, so you're more relaxed with your interactions with them. You can be your natural, funny self with them and you don't get nervous and mess things up. You don't go AFC because you aren't thinking about it, so you end up inadvertantly attracting them.