"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I Don't Understand Myself!!

Lukef29

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I really like this girl and I think she likes me also except for one thing. I try to be confident whenever I talk to her, but I am naturally shy and it always shows. I always get really nervous and my heart starts pumping. Also, whenever I talk to her, my face gets blushed and I just feel stupid;it is all just really retarded. This usually only happens around hot girls. Do any of you have this problem and/or have been able to overcome it?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Michele l'Arcangelo

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sweeetttt.... same as me.... hmmm usually talk to anyone at school.... i got used to it... and after the third chance she gave me... me and her are talking and things are going pretty good... stay off the comp and phone when talking w/ her...... that usually takes away things to talk about.. if you do talk to her on the comp or phone... cut it short in a minute or two... or until each others points are done and said.
 

Smooth Player 056

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Yes...yes...........and yes. Most of us here have had the same sort of deal. I used to exessively sweat around girls or social situations, be too concerned with how I appeared, and what other people thought of me. I now live my life like im in a video game....which means I act out and do what I want.....just like you would in a video game. A succesful way to overcome this type of fear which stems from anxiety of some sort, is to do a boot camp. I find the boot camp very helpful in progressing your comfort zone, little by little. A lot of us cant just jump into a huge crowd of girls and be the MAN. So the boot camp takes us on our way to becoming the MAN in small incriments.
 

i am me

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When you talk to hot girls of course you'll be nervous at first. As time goes on though, you'll get better at it. I kinda like that rush I get though...makes me feel alive
 

DJ4Real

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I don't "blush". I've learned to just keep calm now. I used to get nervous though.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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