"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I don't understand girls or the world - can someone explain?

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How is it that one day you are sharing your bed with a girl whom you like and who likes you back and having an awesome time exploring each other's bodies and then the next day (not literally) neither of you are talking and living completely separate lives.

Or how is it you meet someone at work you really click with and share something really special and then one day neither of you are talking and she's like friends with other workmates on facebook who you know shared nothing near as what you had with this girl?

How is that? Cos to me it seems a little crazy.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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It makes no logical sense because we (men and women) are following an algorithm that is known only to our subconscious minds. It is our job as players to figure out the female algorithm and then feed the correct inputs into that algorithm so that the woman has sex with us.

It makes more sense when you figure out that emotions, paradoxically, have a certain logic to them.
 

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Turuwal said:
It makes no logical sense because we (men and women) are following an algorithm that is known only to our subconscious minds. .
Hi Turuwal, could you expand on this please as this theory has intrigued me.
 

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How is it that one day you are sharing your bed with a girl whom you like and who likes you back and having an awesome time exploring each other's bodies and then the next day (not literally) neither of you are talking and living completely separate lives.

Or how is it you meet someone at work you really click with and share something really special and then one day neither of you are talking and she's like friends with other workmates on facebook who you know shared nothing near as what you had with this girl?

How is that? Cos to me it seems a little crazy.
Maybe she had a short term amnesia after epically fvcking her brains out, well, that happens ya know? That's why a pillow is advised on top of her head coz her head hitting the headboard like a jackhammer as you bang her relentlessly causes it. :nono: Hahaha, bleeehhh!

Other than that, it's a girl thing i can't really make a conclusion of. Let's grab that chick and let's interrogate her about it with the help of Smooves, Atom, Joe Marron and the gang of other perverts :rockon:
 

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Women only care about how they feel in the moment. So their feelings for you are constantly changing.

Mike32ct's Law #53564 - At ANY given time, at least one female you know will be pissed off at you and giving you the silent treatment.

^You can take that to the bank.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Women only care about how they feel in the moment. So their feelings for you are constantly changing.

Mike32ct's Law #53564 - At ANY given time, at least one female you know will be pissed off at you and giving you the silent treatment.

^You can take that to the bank.
If a girl's feelings are constantly changing then what is the point of falling in love if love is so easily changeable for a woman?

There is this one girl who I really liked and really fell for but now we are not talking even though I thought we ended on good terms. I called her out for her behaviour and accepted her apology and even said take care. When I see her picture on facebook by accident it makes me sad to know she is somewhere in the world and i'll never talk to her again. :cry:

I think about blocking her but i want to keep the door open in case she comes back.
 

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If a girl's feelings are constantly changing then what is the point of falling in love if love is so easily changeable for a woman?

There is this one girl who I really liked and really fell for but now we are not talking even though I thought we ended on good terms. I called her out for her behaviour and accepted her apology and even said take care. When I see her picture on facebook by accident it makes me sad to know she is somewhere in the world and i'll never talk to her again. :cry:

I think about blocking her but i want to keep the door open in case she comes back.
I'm not saying women are hopeless and relationships are impossible. But they do have their mood swings, plus a lot if relationships fail early on.

The challenge is to find the right female the has a high interest level and stays interested in you. They are out there, but it's not easy.

Probably the biggest trap is to assume, "She's perfect for me" early on. You might think she is, but you have to date her for a while to know that. If she doesn't stay with you, she wasn't such a great fit.
 

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Mike32ct said:
I'm not saying women are hopeless and relationships are impossible. But they do have their mood swings, plus a lot if relationships fail early on.

The challenge is to find the right female the has a high interest level and stays interested in you. They are out there, but it's not easy.

Probably the biggest trap is to assume, "She's perfect for me" early on. You might think she is, but you have to date her for a while to know that. If she doesn't stay with you, she wasn't such a great fit.
Yes, I suppose so. I noticed that she is 'friends' with her ex again so maybe they were a better fit for each other.

My ex on the other hand is still in touch with me. Perhaps we were a good fit after all.
 

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Hi Turuwal, could you expand on this please as this theory has intrigued me.
I believe that the overall algorithm is detailed in the books Sex At Dawn, The Manipulated Man, Sperm Wars, and The Selfish Gene. Good Google-fu should get you these for free. The first two are the most important whereas the second two help with the theoretical underpinning.

The algorithm, for me at least, can generally be reduced to something betwen these two extremes:

"In a high energy/natural world environment, fvck any guy who shows me that he knows that I want to fvck him" (source: Sex At Dawn)

"In a low energy/unnatural world environment, try to possess whatever most other women are trying to possess" (source: The Manipulated Man)

Providing the correct inputs to show her that you know this (both consciously and subconsciously) is the hard part. Also note that getting sex soon after meeting may depend on being high energy. I have trouble fvcking a new woman when I have low energy.
 
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