I don't understand at all.....Help

[godjwood]

I dont' get what this girl's deal is. Last Sat. we went to an Xmas party it went well i kinda got drunk and talked too much but w/e the night ended up well we kissed and all that, but it's like she's giving me the cold shoulder and not making an effort to hangout.

I asked her to hangout Today (Tues.) and go see Kong she said 'I can't' no reason behind it just 'I can't' then i was like eh w/e just a fluke, so i asked her to go see a movie Fri. (the special olympic one woo hoo) and she said 'I think we're going to see family at my grandma's Fri.' It's like she's not making an effort and not even saying hey well if we can't Fri. then let's try for Saturday or next week.

And I leave to go to Europe next week 27th, and she knows that, and i come back on the 15th but it's like wtf what's her deal. She said she likes me, we kiss, so wtf is up????

Help Guys what's this chicks deal???

 

[lets_do_this]

Get a different girl to hang out with. But do not drop her.

Once she finds out your true worth, she will come crawling back.

On the other hand, if she doesn't, you have this other girl. Win-Win situation.

 

[AmIAFC]

She's probably getting LTR vibes from you and is trying to keep her distance. Ignore her, play cold (but remain polite), and talk to other chics. Women know when a guy is having a good time without them, and they start taking you less and less for granted.

 

[godjwood]

LTR?

 

[izza]

Friend zone the hell out of her, and then, if possible, bone her.

 

[NeedToImprove]

maybe she is afraid of commitment

LTR stands for long term relationship

 

[joekerr31]

she's seeing another guy and is trying to tell you to get lost.

J

 

[Lesson4u]

You got drunk and talked too much. That's not real solid game. However, sometimes it's enough to get a kiss-close from a drunk girl. The problem is when she sobers up the next day, she probably had these two reactions:

1) she realized that she kissed you when she was drunk, and it lowered it social value

2) there was nothing in your game she can latch on to justify her actions

To top it off, you can across as needy when you got turned down for an AFC-like movie date---boring!

You have to start from scratch and sarge her over again when you get back from Europe. This time you will have some add'l. social value from taking a trip to Europe. Leverage it in a conversation with her by making strong statements regarding your trip. Then let her ask you questions and let the qualifying and challenging begin...and other attraction techniques.

GL........................Lesson

 

[Centaurion]

Originally posted by joekerr31
she's seeing another guy and is trying to tell you to get lost.

J

we got a winner here guys!

 

[godjwood]

she wasn't drunk.
Also she's the one that said she wanted to hangout more in person to get to know eachother so what's that BS when she doesn't hangout.

Should i just start playing the ignoring game? I was gonna see if she wanted to hangout Sat. then say ok well i'm leaving for Europe on the 27th so if u wanna hangout give me a call.

 

[godjwood]

Also.....wtf i got her a gift and was gonna have a 'xmas date' kinda thing before we left, but no way in h3ll am i doing that if she's all wishy washy, and should i just ask her straight up ....wanna exchange gifts? My gift kicks ass it's those chocolate shot glasses.

 

[DJHoolahoop]

And whats in one of the glasses, an engagement ring? Dude buying the girl a christmas gift when she's blowing u off liek this? no no no man u never put all your eggs in one basket, that's how they find out how interested you are in them. You gotta keep them guessing and lead them like you want them, but talk like you're not sure you're even interested.

I think you're trying too hard, keeping your distance helps.

 

[godjwood]

Should i even bother asking her to hangout before i leave for Europe?

My idea was give her a call tomorrow, i haven't talked to her in 3 days.....say wanna hangout Saturday, if she doesn't say ok well i'm leaving on Tuesday, if u wanna hangout give me a call.

Good idea bad? Suggestions?
Comments?

 

[AmIAFC]

You're on the brink of contracting the one-it-is, man. You've seen Resident Evil, right? Where the regular people working in the office were sniffing the zombie toxin at the beginning and didn't even know it until the end, when they turned into actual zombies? Well, you've inhaled the one-it-is virus and before you know it, you'll be thinking about this woman 24/7, handicapping yourself to this one person.

Best bet is to next her for a while. Quit making excuses to call her, see her, visit her, etc. Act like you have a full plate and you're busy. In truth, you do have a full plate...a full plate of women at your disposal but you're not eating from it.

"Take it! It's yours!" - Achilles

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

After reading all that, here's my advice.

Get on the plane and go to Europe. Don't call her again.


She isn't putting forth any effort to hang with you. Do not try and rationalize her behaviour.... It'll get you nowhere. i think you dove in way too seriously for something that just started out... you bought her a gift?

wow

I'm not a big advocate of saying this, but.........NEXT!

 

[JackPrescott]

Originally posted by godjwood
I dont' get what this girl's deal is. Last Sat. we went to an Xmas party it went well i kinda got drunk and talked too much but w/e the night ended up well we kissed and all that, but it's like she's giving me the cold shoulder and not making an effort to hangout.

I asked her to hangout Today (Tues.) and go see Kong she said 'I can't' no reason behind it just 'I can't' then i was like eh w/e just a fluke, so i asked her to go see a movie Fri. (the special olympic one woo hoo) and she said 'I think we're going to see family at my grandma's Fri.' It's like she's not making an effort and not even saying hey well if we can't Fri. then let's try for Saturday or next week.

And I leave to go to Europe next week 27th, and she knows that, and i come back on the 15th but it's like wtf what's her deal. She said she likes me, we kiss, so wtf is up????

Help Guys what's this chicks deal???

Here is the deal. When a woman wants to be with you, and is into you, there is NOTHING on this planet that will keep her from you. Not deaths in the family, not kids, not husbands or boyfriends, not jobs, not anything. She will go through, around or over any brick wall/obstacle to get with you.

When she is not interested, there are lame excuses. Bottom line.

 

[godjwood]

true

...ya sucks when that chicks on ur mind then u have to ignore her but i guess if she's not putting in any effort why should i....

 

[godjwood]

So i shouldn't call her at all?

 

[Captain Popular]

ok man you must realize that gurls see guyz as a prize, if you let her win you all at once then there is no effort, challenge for her...if she says ohh i cant be like that's cool i guess we'll talk later, if you're lucky..and end it at that, dont be ahh can i see you the day after that or the day whenever your free how bout the say after that...get multipul girl-friends that way you wont be so hung up on one girl
i have a girlfriend and then have many, many, many girl-friends that i can do stuff with, therefore no one gurl gets my entire attention and you know that when you deny a girl what she wants it makes her go crazy,,,try and break a date or something like that with her, she will desire your presence..good luck and get some more girl-friends

 

[Captain Popular]

try and text her instead and just say hello or something dont call